Let's hear it, herebyrequest.

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I'd like to post but my husband would read it and I cannot be open enough to get any real help. My husband knows about the other man but he doesn't know all my deep down thoughts. Thanks anyway <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by herebyrequest:
<strong> I'd like to post but my husband would read it and I cannot be open enough to get any real help. My husband knows about the other man but he doesn't know all my deep down thoughts. Thanks anyway <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">^^^Classic conflict avoidance justification for keeping lies hidden^^^.

It's a misery you volunteer for.

If you refuse help, then accept responsibility for your decision to live miserably without trying to pawn responsibility off onto your husband's shoulders.

Your situation / unhappiness is YOUR decision ... yours alone.

You are willing to remain miserable for lack of integrity to be honest and make necessary changes.

My opinion only.



Pep

Herebyrequest, if you need a safe space to talk about the end of your affair and working it through, please check out the boards over at saveyourmarriagecentral.infopop.cc. There is a private board where people who've had affairs are supported (and challenged) through the process of ending an affair.

It's one of the most respectful and compassionate places I've ever seen, even while it will focus you on the hard work that's before you. If your husband has asked you to come here to read, please invite him to read the SYMC site and the public boards there. If you and he have any questions about it, please feel free to contact me at the e-mail address below. I can put you in touch with the owner of the board. She personally moderates the board that people who've had affairs use.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Just J:
<strong> There is a private board where people who've had affairs are supported (and challenged) through the process of ending an affair. This does not mean that people who've had affairs won't be supported (and challenged) here as well - quite the contrary - expressing your thoughts in an open forum will be remarkably cleansing.</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Edited to remove any unintended inferences.

Touche'

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