ok guys i think i was being paranoid i do not think he was on the phone i have found no evidence and i think i was just being over analyzing again. here is our latest concern on our road to making a better marriage. SF.
we had gret SF up until the A then he stopped wanteing to do it. i was 9 months pregnet and thought that was why. so i didnt initiate . then we went through the whole A. he moved back home after a 4 month seperation last jan. we had reagulr SF again 2-4 times a week. mostly with him intiiating. (i have never been a big initatior). Well recently he has expressed some concern and now we are basically at the point where he will not intiate. we had SF twice last thursday and none since then. he has gotton home late every night this week from work. i am always in the mood to do it but then i freeze up.
my complaint is he is not very cuddly at bedtime anymore. so i start to try to cuddle he is not very receptive i think hes waiting for me to go further but then i feel rejectred right away. and then i dont do anything i had intentiosn of it almost everynight this week and could not do it <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> i mean if he wouldve initiated i would have doen it more then willingly i just can not seem to initiate!!!!! ughh. Well
this morning i am feeling upset and scared maybe theres another reason were not dong it (not necesarry a OW) just something bothering him but of course when i ask him it comes out wrong and accusitory . i said soemthing like. is the only reason were not having SF b/c i'm not intiatingor is there another reason. he figurex i meant a ow i didnt mean that i just maenat somethning bothering him. he said if you want to do it and its bothering you do something about it (meaning for me to initiate) i need to overcomethis b/4 it pushes him farhter away.
please help. thanks mylife
