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Re: do they really not remember not know?
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Re: do they really not remember not know?
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qUICK TEST OF POSTING ABILITY...

BTW, I was a WS. I don't remember the little details of my affair.

Anyone want to call me a liar?

EDIT*** OK - Post works

I agree that a lot of DJ's have been kicked around here.
We remember the things that are important to us. Those things are different for the WS and BS.

For example: I remember what my OW smells like, wife thinks I should know what kind of perfume...you see the difference?

Low

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Re: do they really not remember not know?
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Hi lasting!

Just passing along my experience on this subject. My FWH claimed he did not remember much about the A during the 18 months past d-day. He only admitted to stuff that I found out, figured out, repeatedly questioned, etc.

We hit a plateau in our recovery and it was going no where. I couldn't go forward until I knew all A secrets were out in the open. I could not live with the lies of ommission, secrets between H and OW...I just could not do it.

Low and behold, H suddenly 'remembered' some pretty detailed stuff about the A and came clean 19 months after d-day. We've been moving forward ever since.

Hopefully, you don't have to wait that long. It's agonizing and makes every day feel like a d-day.

Take care.

sss

BS - 43 FWH - 62 M 2/14/00 D-day 6/20/03 NC w/OW 6/20/03 FWH in IC & AA. BS in IC & Al-Anon. In recovery. FWH multiple A's in past 20 years (in 1st M and our M).
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