My in-laws called last night to tell me that they received a wedding invitation in the mail from my H and the OW. They plan to get married the day after my divorce is final in May. I can't believe this... It was exactly one year ago last night that they had the "I'm attracted to you more than I should be" conversation. By the first week in April, my marriage was over. This so breaks my heart. I know that divorce isn't the end of the world... it's a piece of paper. Having my H jump into marriage with this woman, mixing their finances (of which hers are a complete mess), becoming an official step-dad to her three kids... Even if it doesn't work and he ends up unhappy, how would he ever disengage from that? Those of you who have read my posts know that I have worked hard to move forward, maintain my dignity, and get strong. I recognize this is just another bump in the road to recovery. I was still holding on to some hope that he'd wake up, however. Now, I just don't know. All the statistics that I've studied say that this outcome was totally unlikely. (I think Pittman said that only 25% of A partners end up marrying, and that only 1/4 of those have relationships five years down the road. This was such an unlikely union. My H always talked about how happy he was and what a great relationship we had. He became bored in the last six months of our time together, however, and all the drama of her ways were so appealing. My heart hurts right now. Penny, if you're out there and have a moment, I'd love to chat with you or email off-line regarding the note I planned to write to him. Anyway, I know that life goes on. Luckily, I have a great life and much to be thankful for, so this, too, shall pass. It's just so unbelievable to me right now...

That just means all those batchlors got another chance to be lucky enough to get you now! Enie menie minie moe which one will you pick. Happy hunting. His loss right!

<small>[ March 13, 2005, 12:01 PM: Message edited by: RHM ]</small>

They sure seem to be in a rush...

Guess the OW is applying pressure and/or they want to hurry up and get married before the sizzle starts to cool down too much. LOL

What did your in-laws think of this?

I'm curious, did they find a church willing to do it?

Enjoy your freedom from their mess and obvious immaturity.

And never forget that their marriage will never be more than adultery. Take care of yourself and take the time to meet a mature, moral man to build a solid future with.

God...I'm so sorry. I knkow this must be so hard on you. I fear that this will happen with me also. I know for sure that my STBX's OW wants to marry him and have children with him. UUGGHHH>>>>makes me sick to even think about it.

I just have to tell myself everyday that I deserve better and will find it. I've actually met some really nice men....nothing other than friendship right now of course but at least I know there are some decent men out there. We will survive all of this and in time be happier than we ever thought. Hang in there. Take it one day at a time. I feel your pain.
HUGS

God...I'm so sorry. I knkow this must be so hard on you. I fear that this will happen with me also. I know for sure that my STBX's OW wants to marry him and have children with him. UUGGHHH>>>>makes me sick to even think about it.

I just have to tell myself everyday that I deserve better and will find it. I've actually met some really nice men....nothing other than friendship right now of course but at least I know there are some decent men out there. We will survive all of this and in time be happier than we ever thought. Hang in there. Take it one day at a time. I feel your pain.
HUGS

God...I'm so sorry. I knkow this must be so hard on you. I fear that this will happen with me also. I know for sure that my STBX's OW wants to marry him and have children with him. UUGGHHH>>>>makes me sick to even think about it.

I just have to tell myself everyday that I deserve better and will find it. I've actually met some really nice men....nothing other than friendship right now of course but at least I know there are some decent men out there. We will survive all of this and in time be happier than we ever thought. Hang in there. Take it one day at a time. I feel your pain.
HUGS

Sorry to hear that your stbxh's doing same thing my x did...and it's stupid.

Just remember this...it will probably NOT be a gala romantic affair...heck, it's an affair. And if there are actually people present for the unblessed event, their tongues will be wagging as she goes down the aisle.

I'd just have two days all to myself. I'd be around friends, family, etc. As for when my xh married? It was not a public affair, but he "ran away" to do it...(and imho it's like leaving a note when a kid runs away...way your x sent his parents the invitation to the wedding). I thought it would happen on new years' eve so I went out with my friends to a black tie event.

After all is said and done, I can say it was just another day to me. It will come and it will go. And yes, you might think of it during that day...but just know you have the stats that tell the truth. It's an uphill battle for the doomed lovers. But let em' go. And don't worry if your inlaws act wierdly after he marries...they are his parents. I learned that sadly...that in most cases (and yes, I have seen a few where the xil's are good to the xdil) the xil's do embrace the ow/w. That's what happened in my case.

Just know that it's a day. Let it go. Release it. Surround yourself with distractions. And remember that nobody is fooling anybody. IF people are there, then it's for show and b/c OW is either pressuring your stbxh or she wants validation of her "perceived role" as the new woman in his life. Either way, it is not somehing wonderful so I say give that day to the two adulterers and YOU design YOURSELF a wonderful day. Make it an official holiday too. In fact, if I had a heads' up when my xh was getting married, I would have sent out invites for my "rebachelorette" party (I had one...yes I did) and I would have had it on the day he married.

Celebrate your new life. Celebrate YOUR freedom. Celebrate the fact you can walk around with your head high and your integrity in check.

In the end, the thought that freed me was "I am the ONLY person who is truly free". Your xh is not free. He cannot grieve. He cannot experience change. A person who marries that quickly without learning and understand what they did wrong and not wanting to improve or refine themselves, is setting themselves up for a bigger fall than even before. Know that. On the other hand, you can and have done that. That's cool.

Let's say two people divorce. A wife left her H b/c she fell in love with another man. After leaving her H, she moves immediately with OM. And they fabricate a world to live in. It's based on temporary fulfillment, not deeper, mature love. And let's say that the BH spends the time apart from his WW learning about himself. He understands what he did wrong in his marriage. He strives to improve himself and any future relationship he should enter into. The day of the divorce arrives. And mere hours later, the xw is once again a wife...now to the OM.

Who do you think will be happier 5 years down the road? The wife or the xhusband? Who is really free? WAs the WW really free? After all, as a free woman, she married the OP right away. Or was her BH really free? HE had time to learn about himself. Get to know himself. And get honest about his shortcomings and change things around. Who's most adept at carrying a relationship? The xw or the BH? Think about it in terms of somebody else. It's easy to feel pain, but you're the one in the pole position here. Not the wayward "lovers". If five years pass and these two idiots are still married, it's because they're stubborn...not because they're giddy in love and made the best decision of their lives.

Karma has a way of going around...just stand back and people will tell you when it happens. Trust me...I don't care but I still find out about the effects of bad karma.

Sorry to hear that your stbxh's doing same thing my x did...and it's stupid.

Just remember this...it will probably NOT be a gala romantic affair...heck, it's an affair. And if there are actually people present for the unblessed event, their tongues will be wagging as she goes down the aisle.

I'd just have two days all to myself. I'd be around friends, family, etc. As for when my xh married? It was not a public affair, but he "ran away" to do it...(and imho it's like leaving a note when a kid runs away...way your x sent his parents the invitation to the wedding). I thought it would happen on new years' eve so I went out with my friends to a black tie event.

After all is said and done, I can say it was just another day to me. It will come and it will go. And yes, you might think of it during that day...but just know you have the stats that tell the truth. It's an uphill battle for the doomed lovers. But let em' go. And don't worry if your inlaws act wierdly after he marries...they are his parents. I learned that sadly...that in most cases (and yes, I have seen a few where the xil's are good to the xdil) the xil's do embrace the ow/w. That's what happened in my case.

Just know that it's a day. Let it go. Release it. Surround yourself with distractions. And remember that nobody is fooling anybody. IF people are there, then it's for show and b/c OW is either pressuring your stbxh or she wants validation of her "perceived role" as the new woman in his life. Either way, it is not somehing wonderful so I say give that day to the two adulterers and YOU design YOURSELF a wonderful day. Make it an official holiday too. In fact, if I had a heads' up when my xh was getting married, I would have sent out invites for my "rebachelorette" party (I had one...yes I did) and I would have had it on the day he married.

Celebrate your new life. Celebrate YOUR freedom. Celebrate the fact you can walk around with your head high and your integrity in check.

In the end, the thought that freed me was "I am the ONLY person who is truly free". Your xh is not free. He cannot grieve. He cannot experience change. A person who marries that quickly without learning and understand what they did wrong and not wanting to improve or refine themselves, is setting themselves up for a bigger fall than even before. Know that. On the other hand, you can and have done that. That's cool.

Let's say two people divorce. A wife left her H b/c she fell in love with another man. After leaving her H, she moves immediately with OM. And they fabricate a world to live in. It's based on temporary fulfillment, not deeper, mature love. And let's say that the BH spends the time apart from his WW learning about himself. He understands what he did wrong in his marriage. He strives to improve himself and any future relationship he should enter into. The day of the divorce arrives. And mere hours later, the xw is once again a wife...now to the OM.

Who do you think will be happier 5 years down the road? The wife or the xhusband? Who is really free? WAs the WW really free? After all, as a free woman, she married the OP right away. Or was her BH really free? HE had time to learn about himself. Get to know himself. And get honest about his shortcomings and change things around. Who's most adept at carrying a relationship? The xw or the BH? Think about it in terms of somebody else. It's easy to feel pain, but you're the one in the pole position here. Not the wayward "lovers". If five years pass and these two idiots are still married, it's because they're stubborn...not because they're giddy in love and made the best decision of their lives.

Karma has a way of going around...just stand back and people will tell you when it happens. Trust me...I don't care but I still find out about the effects of bad karma.

Sorry to hear that your stbxh's doing same thing my x did...and it's stupid.

Just remember this...it will probably NOT be a gala romantic affair...heck, it's an affair. And if there are actually people present for the unblessed event, their tongues will be wagging as she goes down the aisle.

I'd just have two days all to myself. I'd be around friends, family, etc. As for when my xh married? It was not a public affair, but he "ran away" to do it...(and imho it's like leaving a note when a kid runs away...way your x sent his parents the invitation to the wedding). I thought it would happen on new years' eve so I went out with my friends to a black tie event.

After all is said and done, I can say it was just another day to me. It will come and it will go. And yes, you might think of it during that day...but just know you have the stats that tell the truth. It's an uphill battle for the doomed lovers. But let em' go. And don't worry if your inlaws act wierdly after he marries...they are his parents. I learned that sadly...that in most cases (and yes, I have seen a few where the xil's are good to the xdil) the xil's do embrace the ow/w. That's what happened in my case.

Just know that it's a day. Let it go. Release it. Surround yourself with distractions. And remember that nobody is fooling anybody. IF people are there, then it's for show and b/c OW is either pressuring your stbxh or she wants validation of her "perceived role" as the new woman in his life. Either way, it is not somehing wonderful so I say give that day to the two adulterers and YOU design YOURSELF a wonderful day. Make it an official holiday too. In fact, if I had a heads' up when my xh was getting married, I would have sent out invites for my "rebachelorette" party (I had one...yes I did) and I would have had it on the day he married.

Celebrate your new life. Celebrate YOUR freedom. Celebrate the fact you can walk around with your head high and your integrity in check.

In the end, the thought that freed me was "I am the ONLY person who is truly free". Your xh is not free. He cannot grieve. He cannot experience change. A person who marries that quickly without learning and understand what they did wrong and not wanting to improve or refine themselves, is setting themselves up for a bigger fall than even before. Know that. On the other hand, you can and have done that. That's cool.

Let's say two people divorce. A wife left her H b/c she fell in love with another man. After leaving her H, she moves immediately with OM. And they fabricate a world to live in. It's based on temporary fulfillment, not deeper, mature love. And let's say that the BH spends the time apart from his WW learning about himself. He understands what he did wrong in his marriage. He strives to improve himself and any future relationship he should enter into. The day of the divorce arrives. And mere hours later, the xw is once again a wife...now to the OM.

Who do you think will be happier 5 years down the road? The wife or the xhusband? Who is really free? WAs the WW really free? After all, as a free woman, she married the OP right away. Or was her BH really free? HE had time to learn about himself. Get to know himself. And get honest about his shortcomings and change things around. Who's most adept at carrying a relationship? The xw or the BH? Think about it in terms of somebody else. It's easy to feel pain, but you're the one in the pole position here. Not the wayward "lovers". If five years pass and these two idiots are still married, it's because they're stubborn...not because they're giddy in love and made the best decision of their lives.

Karma has a way of going around...just stand back and people will tell you when it happens. Trust me...I don't care but I still find out about the effects of bad karma.

Sorry to hear that your stbxh's doing same thing my x did...and it's stupid.

Just remember this...it will probably NOT be a gala romantic affair...heck, it's an affair. And if there are actually people present for the unblessed event, their tongues will be wagging as she goes down the aisle.

I'd just have two days all to myself. I'd be around friends, family, etc. As for when my xh married? It was not a public affair, but he "ran away" to do it...(and imho it's like leaving a note when a kid runs away...way your x sent his parents the invitation to the wedding). I thought it would happen on new years' eve so I went out with my friends to a black tie event.

After all is said and done, I can say it was just another day to me. It will come and it will go. And yes, you might think of it during that day...but just know you have the stats that tell the truth. It's an uphill battle for the doomed lovers. But let em' go. And don't worry if your inlaws act wierdly after he marries...they are his parents. I learned that sadly...that in most cases (and yes, I have seen a few where the xil's are good to the xdil) the xil's do embrace the ow/w. That's what happened in my case.

Just know that it's a day. Let it go. Release it. Surround yourself with distractions. And remember that nobody is fooling anybody. IF people are there, then it's for show and b/c OW is either pressuring your stbxh or she wants validation of her "perceived role" as the new woman in his life. Either way, it is not somehing wonderful so I say give that day to the two adulterers and YOU design YOURSELF a wonderful day. Make it an official holiday too. In fact, if I had a heads' up when my xh was getting married, I would have sent out invites for my "rebachelorette" party (I had one...yes I did) and I would have had it on the day he married.

Celebrate your new life. Celebrate YOUR freedom. Celebrate the fact you can walk around with your head high and your integrity in check.

In the end, the thought that freed me was "I am the ONLY person who is truly free". Your xh is not free. He cannot grieve. He cannot experience change. A person who marries that quickly without learning and understand what they did wrong and not wanting to improve or refine themselves, is setting themselves up for a bigger fall than even before. Know that. On the other hand, you can and have done that. That's cool.

Let's say two people divorce. A wife left her H b/c she fell in love with another man. After leaving her H, she moves immediately with OM. And they fabricate a world to live in. It's based on temporary fulfillment, not deeper, mature love. And let's say that the BH spends the time apart from his WW learning about himself. He understands what he did wrong in his marriage. He strives to improve himself and any future relationship he should enter into. The day of the divorce arrives. And mere hours later, the xw is once again a wife...now to the OM.

Who do you think will be happier 5 years down the road? The wife or the xhusband? Who is really free? WAs the WW really free? After all, as a free woman, she married the OP right away. Or was her BH really free? HE had time to learn about himself. Get to know himself. And get honest about his shortcomings and change things around. Who's most adept at carrying a relationship? The xw or the BH? Think about it in terms of somebody else. It's easy to feel pain, but you're the one in the pole position here. Not the wayward "lovers". If five years pass and these two idiots are still married, it's because they're stubborn...not because they're giddy in love and made the best decision of their lives.

Karma has a way of going around...just stand back and people will tell you when it happens. Trust me...I don't care but I still find out about the effects of bad karma.

Sorry to hear that your stbxh's doing same thing my x did...and it's stupid.

Just remember this...it will probably NOT be a gala romantic affair...heck, it's an affair. And if there are actually people present for the unblessed event, their tongues will be wagging as she goes down the aisle.

I'd just have two days all to myself. I'd be around friends, family, etc. As for when my xh married? It was not a public affair, but he "ran away" to do it...(and imho it's like leaving a note when a kid runs away...way your x sent his parents the invitation to the wedding). I thought it would happen on new years' eve so I went out with my friends to a black tie event.

After all is said and done, I can say it was just another day to me. It will come and it will go. And yes, you might think of it during that day...but just know you have the stats that tell the truth. It's an uphill battle for the doomed lovers. But let em' go. And don't worry if your inlaws act wierdly after he marries...they are his parents. I learned that sadly...that in most cases (and yes, I have seen a few where the xil's are good to the xdil) the xil's do embrace the ow/w. That's what happened in my case.

Just know that it's a day. Let it go. Release it. Surround yourself with distractions. And remember that nobody is fooling anybody. IF people are there, then it's for show and b/c OW is either pressuring your stbxh or she wants validation of her "perceived role" as the new woman in his life. Either way, it is not somehing wonderful so I say give that day to the two adulterers and YOU design YOURSELF a wonderful day. Make it an official holiday too. In fact, if I had a heads' up when my xh was getting married, I would have sent out invites for my "rebachelorette" party (I had one...yes I did) and I would have had it on the day he married.

Celebrate your new life. Celebrate YOUR freedom. Celebrate the fact you can walk around with your head high and your integrity in check.

In the end, the thought that freed me was "I am the ONLY person who is truly free". Your xh is not free. He cannot grieve. He cannot experience change. A person who marries that quickly without learning and understand what they did wrong and not wanting to improve or refine themselves, is setting themselves up for a bigger fall than even before. Know that. On the other hand, you can and have done that. That's cool.

Let's say two people divorce. A wife left her H b/c she fell in love with another man. After leaving her H, she moves immediately with OM. And they fabricate a world to live in. It's based on temporary fulfillment, not deeper, mature love. And let's say that the BH spends the time apart from his WW learning about himself. He understands what he did wrong in his marriage. He strives to improve himself and any future relationship he should enter into. The day of the divorce arrives. And mere hours later, the xw is once again a wife...now to the OM.

Who do you think will be happier 5 years down the road? The wife or the xhusband? Who is really free? WAs the WW really free? After all, as a free woman, she married the OP right away. Or was her BH really free? HE had time to learn about himself. Get to know himself. And get honest about his shortcomings and change things around. Who's most adept at carrying a relationship? The xw or the BH? Think about it in terms of somebody else. It's easy to feel pain, but you're the one in the pole position here. Not the wayward "lovers". If five years pass and these two idiots are still married, it's because they're stubborn...not because they're giddy in love and made the best decision of their lives.

Karma has a way of going around...just stand back and people will tell you when it happens. Trust me...I don't care but I still find out about the effects of bad karma.

Sorry to hear that your stbxh's doing same thing my x did...and it's stupid.

Just remember this...it will probably NOT be a gala romantic affair...heck, it's an affair. And if there are actually people present for the unblessed event, their tongues will be wagging as she goes down the aisle.

I'd just have two days all to myself. I'd be around friends, family, etc. As for when my xh married? It was not a public affair, but he "ran away" to do it...(and imho it's like leaving a note when a kid runs away...way your x sent his parents the invitation to the wedding). I thought it would happen on new years' eve so I went out with my friends to a black tie event.

After all is said and done, I can say it was just another day to me. It will come and it will go. And yes, you might think of it during that day...but just know you have the stats that tell the truth. It's an uphill battle for the doomed lovers. But let em' go. And don't worry if your inlaws act wierdly after he marries...they are his parents. I learned that sadly...that in most cases (and yes, I have seen a few where the xil's are good to the xdil) the xil's do embrace the ow/w. That's what happened in my case.

Just know that it's a day. Let it go. Release it. Surround yourself with distractions. And remember that nobody is fooling anybody. IF people are there, then it's for show and b/c OW is either pressuring your stbxh or she wants validation of her "perceived role" as the new woman in his life. Either way, it is not somehing wonderful so I say give that day to the two adulterers and YOU design YOURSELF a wonderful day. Make it an official holiday too. In fact, if I had a heads' up when my xh was getting married, I would have sent out invites for my "rebachelorette" party (I had one...yes I did) and I would have had it on the day he married.

Celebrate your new life. Celebrate YOUR freedom. Celebrate the fact you can walk around with your head high and your integrity in check.

In the end, the thought that freed me was "I am the ONLY person who is truly free". Your xh is not free. He cannot grieve. He cannot experience change. A person who marries that quickly without learning and understand what they did wrong and not wanting to improve or refine themselves, is setting themselves up for a bigger fall than even before. Know that. On the other hand, you can and have done that. That's cool.

Let's say two people divorce. A wife left her H b/c she fell in love with another man. After leaving her H, she moves immediately with OM. And they fabricate a world to live in. It's based on temporary fulfillment, not deeper, mature love. And let's say that the BH spends the time apart from his WW learning about himself. He understands what he did wrong in his marriage. He strives to improve himself and any future relationship he should enter into. The day of the divorce arrives. And mere hours later, the xw is once again a wife...now to the OM.

Who do you think will be happier 5 years down the road? The wife or the xhusband? Who is really free? WAs the WW really free? After all, as a free woman, she married the OP right away. Or was her BH really free? HE had time to learn about himself. Get to know himself. And get honest about his shortcomings and change things around. Who's most adept at carrying a relationship? The xw or the BH? Think about it in terms of somebody else. It's easy to feel pain, but you're the one in the pole position here. Not the wayward "lovers". If five years pass and these two idiots are still married, it's because they're stubborn...not because they're giddy in love and made the best decision of their lives.

Karma has a way of going around...just stand back and people will tell you when it happens. Trust me...I don't care but I still find out about the effects of bad karma.

A very wise old woman said to me -How can they ever be happy or trust each other when their R began as an A of a marrie dman. Will they ever trust each other or will they always think that they will cheat as well. Good words and thought -think about this. Will he ever trust her -will she ever really trust him ? I do not want to walk in their shoes.

Gosh. That's really chancy. All sorts of legal complications can enter in to make the divorce not final by that date. That would be really embarrassing if, at the last minute, they had to cancel or move the date because he is still married...

In another thread, Dewt just posted a link to a site that contained some very interesting info. IMHO it's really stupid for your WH and OW to give so much credence to their temporary lust for each other, ESPECIALLY since neither seems to respect the sort of committment required to make a marriage last once the honeymoon is over. Why do people like that even bother to get married?

http://science.howstuffworks.com/love8.htm

<small>[ March 13, 2005, 02:32 PM: Message edited by: meremortal ]</small>

Thanks for your advice, all. For those who aren't familiar with my situation, my H and the OW met on a train and commuted with about 5 other folks at a table for 3 months. My H became friends with her H and their 3 kids (13, 5 and 3). Within 3 months after that, they decided they had stronger feelings than they should and my H told me it was a blip on the radar screen - it simply pointed out that there were issues we needed to address. Three weeks later, my marriage was over. I was told that he and the OW were like heroin to each other and couldn't be away from each other. (The other woman, by the way, is somewhat looney. While I was at a party at her house (we had socialized as couples with her and her H for three months), she waltzed into the room with another woman's baby on her arms, dropped her dress and pushed the baby's head to her breast saying that she misses breastfeeding. I couldn't believe it! My H was outside at the time and didn't see it, but the mother walked in and you should have seen her face. It was awful... She always has to be the center of attention, no matter the cost. Her finances are totally messed up as she's always overdrawn to the tune of $350/month in overdraft charges from the bank. Her credit is awful and she told my H it's because her ex never paid the bills on time. Her ex (they're now divorced) is as responsible as I am. Finally, my H moved into her bed the same day that her H moved out - with all three kids at home. Anyway, all this leads to the I don't know what he's thinking and, if there's justice in the world, they won't end up happy together. Happy apart, ok. Just not together. I recognize that I shouldn't care and I'm working hard to get there. Please understand that this is simply part of my process to digest all this and, hopefully, move on in a healthy way. It's just another bump in the journey - I know I'll come out better and stronger on the other side. I am so far ahead of where I was at the begnning of this nightmare one year ago. I can't thank all of you enough for your words of kindness and support. I'm just so, so sorry there are so many of us out there... Hugs to you all, and please keep writing. I need you all right now... GS

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Getting_Stronger:
<strong> Thanks for your advice, all. For those who While I was at a party at her house (we had socialized as couples with her and her H for three months), she waltzed into the room with another woman's baby on her arms, dropped her dress and pushed the baby's head to her breast saying that she misses breastfeeding. </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Good Lord!!!!!!!......... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

This woman is CRAZY!!!!! This is waaaaaaayyyy over the top....this is NOT going to last...this OW has serious mental issues.
This reminds me of that movie..."The hand that rocks the cradle" (I think that`s the movie) where the OW was beyond psycho.

This OW is sick. Your H is in for a BIG surprise...

I am surprised that the mother of that baby didn`t clean the OW`s clock <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

I know. The thing was that the party was at the OW's house and the baby's mother was so appalled, I think she wanted to avoid making a scene. While I will never forget the OW breastfeeding the kid, what's worse was seeing the mother's face. It was really awful. This woman is such a major crazy it's not funny. I have only come across one person who liked her - and he even admitted she's really inappropriate. What can I say - my husband is in the middle of a big mess and he's digging himself a deeper hole with every move. It breaks my heart....

Again....loooooottttssss of legal things could upset things could upset the timing of all this at the last minute...can't you think of anything?

Oh, forget it...it was just a thought...but still...

<small>[ March 13, 2005, 11:34 PM: Message edited by: A.M.Martin ]</small>

At this point, I wouldn't purposely try to get in the way. If a wedding is what they want, so it shall be. I have to continue to take the high road so that I don't regret anything I do down the line. Again, it's already too late for them. They've taken the lowest road possible.