I was wondering if there is someone on here that I can talk one on one with.
I need to get so much off my chest.
I need to find a safe place to talk and be honest.

Lucidity,
The best person in the world to talk to would be Lost Husband. He is truly the most non-judgmental, caring, honest people out there. And very wise too. However, now that we are engaged, we find it wise to kind of talk with people of the other sex together. I realize I am kind of volunteering him here (he's been away from his desk and I haven't been able to get in touch with him), but I would be glad to talk to you even if for some reason he isn't up to it. Otherwise, what we would do is just copy each email to all of us.
It could be good - both genders, he's made some big mistakes in life that he's come back from, i've been on the WS side of the fence, to some extent.
Anyway, if you are interested, e-mail us at tara_and_girls@yahoo.com
If not, I understand, i know we can both come across pretty tough sometimes. But I know that LH has had a burden on his heart for you for a little while now. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

lucidy,

I think losthusband and fhl would be excellent people to talk with you, but if you also want just a girl to talk to I would love to talk to you. I am very concerned about your kids not having access to their mom and vice versa.

Do you have a generic email? I keep starting emails without my name in them but then I can't remember what they are.

If you have a email you can publicly post please post it and I will email you my addy.

I have 50/50 custody with my DD's dad. I didn't fight it because I think I have always been so terrified of courtrooms that I convinced myself that giving him what he wanted was in DD's best interest. Now I regret that.

She does need him but she needed to live with me and just visit him. I was a coward though.

I went in front of mediation with him last week and actually fought for my and DD's rights. I was terrified and actually had an anziety attack in the waiting room.

I refused to leave though, I thought well if they haven't seen an anziety attack yet in this place, it is high time they experienced it. LOL

Anyway I am learning to stand up for myself and you can too.

I don't know what you did 6 years ago but I get the idea on the other threads that fear is what motivated you.

Even if you don't email me lucidity please fight for your rights as a mother. Your boys need you to do this. Don't let someone bully you into giving up and running away.

Some recommend the private forums over on SYMC.

SYMC

I think Trix is right lucidity. It might be a good idea to check that out as well.

lucidity,
I think losthusband and faithHopelove would be a great couple to talk to.

I would apply for the position, <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> but I have a lot of my plate right now. But I am here for you as much as I can. All of you have my e-mail addy also, in case you need me for anything.

Faith1

You know what?

I just realized something.

Empty (AKA Husband2You) was a HUGE help in my Recovery....both marital and personal. I can't believe that I didn't realize who you were referring to sooner.

I also can't believe the changes that he's made.....and how NOT good they are. Of course I only ever heard HIS side of the story.

Now....I don't want to bring up bad memories from the past.....but at one point he was so dedicated in making sure that the boys saw their mom that he actually spent time with you WHILE you were living with the OM....he actually slept on the couch while visiting.

Now this....I can't believe the changes. I never would have thought that he was capable of doing this to his sons.

I spent alot of time talking with him on IM. Not so much about his situation....but he helped me through alot of what I was going though.

I could understand if you didn't want to talk to me.....but if you feel like it you can email me at :

missprissatmb@yahoo.com

No offense taken if you don't contact me.