I was just kidding around Cindy <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

I really appreciate all input. I agree that it can't be glossed over. I feel like I'm somewhat on the same page as you in needing to discuss it, drag it kicking and screaming (if need be) into the light of day so it's not so scary and reset boundries.

You're so right about the fog. She doesn't yet admit the kind of damage that has been done and seems to think that sweeping it under the carpet will make it go away. MC was very helpful in opening the floodgates. She was able to vent some things and so was I, but constructively. We were able to talk about some things that we've avoided for a long time (or recently).

I know the pollyanna approach won't work for me, because I won't be able to let it rest or just forgive and forget. I need to open it up, know that she is being completely open and honest with me and see some true remorse to really get past it. I think my biggest problem right now is that she won't even acknowledge the damage or that she even did much wrong. Pure fog I hope. If she doesn't come around this will be a problem for a long time.

Thanks for posting!