I was surprised to see your message at this hour! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Yes, I can stop thinking of the situation when I'm at work now because it is very demanding, but I still try to read MB now and then, so I don't quite concentrate completely on the job. Some days like today, I was unable to see MB all day because I was too busy. Tomorrow morning I won't be in the office, don't know what time I'll get back.

Being busy is the best remedy. Weekends are a little difficult because there isn't that much that can take your mind off thinking but this weekend I think I'll go visit a friend. I'll take the dog with me.

I have another friendwho I may call and see this week. She and I were at school together and we had not seen each other for like 20 years until december when we met again. Then she sent me a mail a couple of weeks ago and I told her what my sitch was and she said we should get together soon. I'm a little wary about "friends" because you never know what they think. She has already mentioned that some things you can't go back to... whatever that means. She's divorced but I don't know how her marriage was.
Anyway, meeting people, being yourself for a while, things to do...

Doing all that paperwork must not be too nice. I'm sorry you are having to go thru all that. Isn't it sad? All this is so sad... I don't read many new posters anymore. At least for now.

I kinda like the weekends because it allows me to stay busy doing the things I like to do. Now I can work around MY house, in the flower beds, stuff like that.

Plus, Sunday is church and I usually have lunch with my S's and DIL's, which is nice to be with "family" for a little while.

Amazing how much paperwork I've saved in my desk drawers. WW's attorney asked for financial records for the past 10 years, and I've got a lot of that. I'm making 2 copies, one for her, one for my lawyer.

I've already broken my main copier, telling me to call my service provider. Now I'm using a secondary, slower copier further away from my office. This is really boring and depressing all at the same time.

Hope you enjoy your visit with your friend. Jeb is waiting patiently on me in the parking lot (in the car).

Georgia

I happened to look on the recovery forum the other day and I noticed Stanley was celebrating the first year after d day. among the things he considered he did right is the following:



This is what I mean when I say that I will continue to trust WH on financial issues until there is a reason not to, but I won't be the one to provide it. I have always been trustworthy, and WH himself admitted that before plan B. He could re-write our relationship but so far I have not heard one word in that sense.

BTW I didn't do anythnh of the things I had planned <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />

But I will e mail my friend to set up a visit.

Strange occurrence today. Let me give you some background.
I met WH at school. He asked me out and told me that he had just ended a 7 year relationship with a girl who was studying the same as we were. We hit it off immediately and after about 2 or 3 months and with no warning I catch him sitting with the ex girlfriend. I don't remember exactly what happened but somehow I found out he was back with her, I know he admitted it, so I just told my family that they were always to say I was out if he called and I never talked to him again. I got on with my life.

I was always sorry that I had seemed to be the OW for this GF, she may have thought I had interfered in their relationship but he had told me it was over and since I had not known him previously I had believed that.

About 2 years go by, I would see him occasionally but we didn't speak at all, as far as I can remember. Then one night I go to a wedding and WH is there and tells me he´s single again and would I like to go out. I was leaving 2 days later for some soul searching period to a neighboring country but I agreed to go to the movies the following day. After that I left, not knowing exactly when I would return. I did not give him my phone number or address or anything and did not make any promises.

From what I remember of those days I did not think of WH at all and spent more than a month away. The day before I planned to come back I got a phone call from WH asking when I was coming home. I was surprised because he must have called my family and they had given him the number.

When I came back we started dating and eventually married etc. I always felt that he had "betrayed" me and although I tried to talk about it WH never wanted to and never said much. Now I know that is CA, of which I am guilty of too although to a lesser degree than WH.

I really didn´t know the exGF but I remember my MIL liked her alot and for a while the exGF would visit my MIL and they would all hide it from me, something which I never understood. As far as I know the exGF didn't hate me but we could obviously never be friends, at least that's what I thought in those days.

During these 20 years I've only seen her a few times and as far as I know WH has only crossed paths with her a couple of times which he told me about. I think she remained single.

When I realized that it was probable that WH was having an affair, I kept thinking that afterall it was in him, he had already done it once when he probably lied to both the GF and me. So she has always been very present in my mind since I still can't help thinking about the A 24/7.
Well today she turned up at my job, to get some papers. I didn't realize it was her but just somebody I thought I knew, and since I was at the door because I was leaving something for the secretary, I said: "I think I know you" and she told me her name and then told me what she was looking for which wasn't in my department and we said bye.
It's incredible that after so many years this was probably the first time we have ever talked to each other. And it has to be now.

She probably doesn't know what's going on but I was so concious of not having my wedding ring on! If she had asked, I would have told her.

Good Morning, cc...

Nice to hear from you again, I've wondered what was going on.

You said "She probably doesn't know what's going on..."

I don't know, seems like an awfully strange coincidence.

I hope that otherwise things are going well for you. I noticed your 24/7 comment about the A. I'm beginning to get where all constant thoughts aren't permeated by WW, and that is very "liberating" to be able to move on with life.

Georgia

Hi CC:

It's great to hear from you.

I just finished reading a thought-provoking novel entitled, THE FIVE PEOPLE YOU MEET IN HEAVEN by Mitch Albom. One of the "lessons" in the book was "There are no random acts..." Everything happens for a reason....

Makes you wonder about seeing that exGF......

Yes, it does seem like a strange coincidence, but it is probably just that. Unless you believe in higher powers and find messages in these "coincidences"...

My wedding anniversary was on a weekday. I had been in plan B for nearly 3 months. I decide to go to church and the gospel is about adultery!

Just before d day I went on a weekend trip. I was walking along a street in shopping district and I hear singing coming from a church, so I walked in and sat down. The gospel was about to begin and guess what it was: the one where Jesus talks about divorce.

Coincidence?

You see what I am saying! I personally don't believe in "coincidences". If we listen and look carefully, occurrences that you have noted happen all the time. For a reason....

And...to add to that.

Over on my thread, you may notice that I showed up at Reggie's house yesterday with a new basketball. I had been hauling it around for over a week, just hadn't seemed like a good time to go by.

I truly had no idea that yesterday was his birthday. I can't relate any "divine urging" to go see him yesterday, but I don't believe that it was just "coincidence".

I, too, believe there is reason behind everything. But I am also the first to admit that I many times don't understand the reason.

Georgia

I believe that GOD'S PLAN is too AWESOME for us to ever understand.

I have learned to try to have FAITH that HE'S WORKING IT ALL OUT for me...for all of us... who BELIEVE and TRUST IN HIM....

Sorry I wasn't able to check in again, but the good thing is that work sometimes keeps me so busy I manage to forget the situation for a while.

Personally I believe in God's plan and I don't always understand what it means. At least at the time things happen.

One of the writers I like because he manages to relate so many small and seemeingly insignificant facts and incidences in his novels is John Irving. Unfortunately real life is not as tidy.

To end this morning's incident, I found out that the ex GF is going to India. Good for her. She seemed happy.

Well today is the 6 month anniversary of plan B and nothing has happened. I still know nothing of WH, he's still WH as far as I know, still living with OW but pretending that he's not.

Not a good day, my feelings are still raw in spite of trying to get on with life and actually having made important changes. Guess I now just have to go on with another 6 months and hope that they will be easier. I chose to do a 1 year plan B.

Good Morning, cc -

As you may be aware, June 6 was the 6 month anniversary of my Plan B. I know it is hard, I'm glad you've got your job and your dog to keep you occupied.

I know Jeb has been a real blessing to me. He is a true lap Schnauzer, the first one I've ever had that is so much into laying in your lap.

However, sometimes he will jump on you when you least expect it. Sunday afternoon I was sitting my recliner drinking a class of milk. Suddenly, there was 24 1/2 pounds of Schnauzer in my lap and milk all over me, him, the recliner, the floor, the walls, everywhere. And...that's not the first time that's happened. He jumped into the middle of a plate of pizza recently.

Anyway, have a good day.

Georgia

I will try, as usual, to have the best possible day.

This weekend I will be busy. Saturday my youngest dd invited us to the theatre (WH is paying) to a funny show which I am sure I will enjoy and sunday I have the 103rd birthday of a family friend of WH's but only MIL and I are invited. Not that that will be be "fun", but maybe interesting and she does deserve to have a great party because she has complete control of her mind and knows everything happening around her.

Tomorrow I'm off to the town where we have the beach house, where the A started probably or at least where WH took OW. Lots of triggers but I have to go for work, and I will manage.

Something is going on with my youngest d. she is very much more attentive with me. I will wait and see what happens. Maybe she's just now getting what is happening...

I still can't believe it, so I'm not surprised that she may be starting to face reality now.

Anyway, that's the sitch.

CC:

I want to let you know that you remain in my thoughts and prayers. I wish there was something that I could say or do to make this better for you.....

Sounds like you are doing your best to have fun. That's a GOOD THING!!

cc -

Amazing about the 103 y.o. friend. Mrs. Reese (my neighbor) it 92 and very mentally aware. Her eyesight is excellent, but her hearing is very poor.

I've got a busy week this week as well. Tonight I've invited the former owners of my home over for dinner. I'm cooking my one really good entree (chicken cordon bleu) along with tossed salad and croissants. The other couple is bringing a broccoli casserole. I think I'll pick up either a cheesecake of strawberry pie for dessert.

Tuesday and Wednesday nights I've got CASA training (the Thursday class is moved to Wednesday this week only).

I'm taking Thursday and Friday off this week, not too sure what I'm doing yet.

Georgia

Hey...i was not able to read all your postings but i have been through plan B and want to show my support to you...let me tell you that plan b works...it did for me...

Either WH comes home or you feel yourself detaching...and it is liberating to feel you no longer feel for WS anymore...

Whatever you do...DONT BREAK SILENCE...there is nothing you can do to help WS...

Focus on yourself...post your ramblings in this forum...

Take care

Thank you FGG and Zizzy. It's good to have someone who has been thru plan B give us some encouragement now and then. Both FGG and I are in this limbo, and at least I have 6 more months because I decided to plan B for a year. Since I have been able to do a strict plan B it is very lonely and I have little to tell. Georgia is more expressive and entertains us with his daily life

CC -

I've never thought of myself as "entertaining", but if you find it that way, all the better.

I suppose my thread has morphed into a "blog"..

Georgia

Georgia:



How is CC going to interpret this into Spanish? I'm not even sure what it means. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />