I've been in a good Plan A for about 6 weeks now. The WW still goes out a few nights a week with her friends, and admitedly looks for reasons to be gone from the house every other day to avoid the awkwardness. (I've since begun taking up 2ish nights a week going out with the guys)

I rarely LB (never did that much), and she is still very much closed to me. I get an occassional hug and a flirt every couple of days, but we don't spend time to allow us to reconnect.

I don't know the status of the OM as I haven't brought up R talk in about 2 weeks now. She didn't want to go NC before, and when we last talked about it is still looking to move out to find herself. She won't see a IC or MC, and thinks the MB folks are quacks <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

To my question...

What signs should I look for to see that she is beginning to engage again? What are some typical actions I should see hope in? Her fuse is very short since DDay, and I'm tiring of taking these beatings. I set a deadline of the end of this month for a B, but want to be sure I'm doing the right thing for our success. (We have two young kids as well)

<small>[ March 16, 2005, 12:12 PM: Message edited by: Moriarty ]</small>

*bump*

Also, I'd like to ask if I should ask about NC since she hasn't said if she was/nt going to do that. I'm very curious and a bit hesitant to find out.

Don't expect anything at all from her. You just stick to Plan A for the recommended time. She will notice any changes you are making, but will probably not appreciate them.

Plan A is step one, and if it does not work to separate her from OM, then you go to Plan B. I have seen quite a few people here have Plan A work for them, but it often takes Plan B.

Hang in there.