WH just called & says that MC told him she would like to continue seeing us seperately. Is that normal? I'm not sure that I am comfortable with that as the next step, shouldn't we be going together?

Bump up. I am really freaking out. I feel that if we start going to IC that it is one step further apart.

Bump up. I am really freaking out. I feel that if we start going to IC that it is one step further apart.

Molly, hate to see a post go unanswered.. have YOU spoken to the MC or just your WH? I would call the MC and ask directly what the expectations are. Is this a pro M counselor? If not drop this one and find one that is.

{{Molly}}

I have been to the counselor by myself once, he has been by himself once. I think she is pro M, but I haven't asked directly yet, we've been 3 times total. I am just wondering if this is how she is trying to develop her plan of action.

molly, it is not uncommon for a MC to ask to see the couple seperately the first few times. That shouldn't be cause for alarm.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">WH just called & says that MC told him she would like to continue seeing us seperately. Is that normal? I'm not sure that I am comfortable with that as the next step, shouldn't we be going together? </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Sorry - don't know much about your situation; but I would not be alarmed at MC seeing you two separately for 2,3,4... sessions. What are you concerned with?

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I think she is pro M, but I haven't asked directly yet, we've been 3 times total. I am just wondering if this is how she is trying to develop her plan of action. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">You should have checked about MC and pro-marriage or not before starting MC. You should definitely ask if MC is pro-marriage and pronto. If yes; MC is probably attempting to ID an issue(s) with WH. Does he "hide" issues, not like to communicate, etc.?

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