I know this time before the holidays is difficult... Demands are placed on you and your more so your emotions, like never before...<P>Stop... take a breath... reflect..<P>Believe in Yourself...<P>Believe in Yourself<BR>In the power you have to<BR>control your own life<BR>day by day<P>Believe in the<BR>strength that you have deep inside,<BR>and your faith <BR>will help show the way<P>Believe in tomorrow<BR>and what it will bring<BR>Let a hopeful heart<BR>carry you through<P>For things will work out<BR>if you trust and believe<BR>there's no limit<BR>to what you can do<P>-----------<P>...from a small plaque I gave to my beloved wife...<BR>left at home for me to reflect... on my life.<P>Jim<BR><p>[This message has been edited by NSR (edited November 22, 1999).]

NSR - Thanks. You've helped me to realize that this excruciatingly painful ten months has taught me I am a strong and powerful person. If I weren't I would have never made it from a place of rock bottom despair, pain, loneliness and death wishes to a place of hope and happiness. <BR>My H likes to say "with our thoughts we make the world".<BR> Simone

Thanks NSR<P>Jo

NSR - I like that. And needed it. Thanks a lot.<P>Lori

Thank you for your encouragment, I need all I can get. I'm going to Fla. this week to spend some time with relatives ang escape from th nightmare thats become my life. Once again thank you for words they always seem to hit the mark.<P>Bill

NSR,<P>Those words were absolutely Beautiful. Thank you. You seem to possess so much wisdom.<BR>And your posts always give such good insight and encouragement.

Thank you Simone, Jo, Lori, Bill, devastated and who find it...<P>I believe the thoughts mirror what we can be...<BR>If we just let go of our hurts a little more.<P>Jim

To the top for one more time before Thanksgiving... <BR><OL TYPE=1> <BR><LI> <A HREF="http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0849913411" TARGET=_blank><B>Love Must Be Tough : Proven Hope for Families in Crisis</B></A> by James C. Dobson<BR><LI> <A HREF="http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0393307077" TARGET=_blank><B>Private Lies : Infidelity and Betrayal of Intimacy</B></A> by Frank Pittman<BR><LI> <A HREF="http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0060928174" TARGET=_blank><B>After the Affair : Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful</B></A> by Janis Abrahms, Phd <BR><LI> <A HREF="http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0060929189" TARGET=_blank><B>Affair-Proof Your Marriage : Understanding, Preventing and Surviving an Affair</B></A> by Lana Staheli <BR><LI> <A HREF="http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0553477897" TARGET=_blank><B>How One of You Can Bring the Two of You Together</B></A> by Susan Page <BR><LI> <A HREF="http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/1565075722" TARGET=_blank><B>The Power of a Praying Wife</B></A> by Stormie Omartian, Michael Omartian <BR><LI> <A HREF="http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0802477488" TARGET=_blank><B>Torn Asunder : Recovering from Extramarital Affairs</B></A> by Dave Carder, Duncan Jaenicke, David A. Seamands <BR></OL><p>[This message has been edited by NSR (edited November 24, 1999).]

EXTRA NICE.<P>How kind of you to remind us to believe in the one person on earth we can most trust and epend upon - ourselves! <P>Each of us is UNIQUE and VALUABLE to another...<P>Roll Me Away

For the Thanksgiving few...<BR>Just need a break from the sad stories...<P>Jim