With the holiday (shoppping... yuck.. sorry gals... it's a guy thing) season coming up, I'd like to recommend as possible gifts to yourselves... the books other's have mentioned already...<P>If anyone else has <B>other</B> books they have found helpful... for anything (not just Marriage Building) please post. <P>My list (in no particular order) has a lot of cross-links to the amazon.com site for "brief descriptions".<P>Persnal comments in your replies... from those who have read the books... are also welcome.<P>Jim<P>-------------<BR><OL TYPE=1> <BR><LI> <A HREF="http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0849913411" TARGET=_blank><B>Love Must Be Tough :</B> Proven Hope for Families in Crisis</A> by James C. Dobson<BR><LI> <A HREF="http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0393307077" TARGET=_blank><B>Private Lies :</B> Infidelity and Betrayal of Intimacy</A> by Frank Pittman<BR><LI> <A HREF="http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0060928174" TARGET=_blank><B>After the Affair :</B> Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful</A> by Janis Abrahms, Phd <BR><LI> <A HREF="http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0802477488" TARGET=_blank><B>Torn Asunder :</B> Recovering from Extramarital Affairs</A> by Dave Carder, Duncan Jaenicke, David A. Seamands <BR><LI> <A HREF="http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0060929189" TARGET=_blank><B>Affair-Proof Your Marriage :</B> Understanding, Preventing and Surviving an Affair</A> by Lana Staheli <BR><LI> <A HREF="http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0553477897" TARGET=_blank><B>How One of You Can Bring the Two of You Together</B></A> by Susan Page <BR><LI> <A HREF="http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/031057370X" TARGET=_blank><B>When a Mate Wants Out :</B> Secrets for Saving a Marriage</A> by Jim Conway, Sally Conway <BR><LI> <A HREF="http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0787902802" TARGET=_blank><B>Fighting for Your Marriage :</B> Positive Steps for Preventing Divorce and Preserving a Lasting Love</A> by Howard Markman, Scott Stanley, Susan L. Blumberg, Dean S. Edell <BR><LI> <A HREF="http://www.heartmenders.org/hmtapes.htm" TARGET=_blank><B>First Aid for a Wounded Marriage</B></A> by Marilyn Phillipps <BR><LI> <A HREF="http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0960725032" TARGET=_blank><B>Loving Choices :</B> A Growing Experience</A> by Bruce Fisher, Nina Hart <BR><LI> <A HREF="http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0882702041" TARGET=_blank><B>Do Yourself a Favor : Love Your Wife</B></A> by H. Page Williams <BR><LI> <A HREF="http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0060972920" TARGET=_blank><B>Getting the Love You Want :</B> A Guide for Couples</A> by Harville Hendrix <BR><LI> <A HREF="http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0785270876" TARGET=_blank><B>The Heart of Commitment</B></A> by Scott Stanley <BR><LI> <A HREF="http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0310425115" TARGET=_blank><B>Love Life for Every Married Couple</B></A> by Ed. Wheat, M.D. <BR><LI> <A HREF="http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/1881273156" TARGET=_blank><B>The Five Love Languages :</B> How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate</A> by Gary Chapman <BR><LI> <A HREF="http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0842378960" TARGET=_blank><B>What Wives Wish Their Husbands Knew About Women</B></A> by James C. Dobson <BR><LI> <A HREF="http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0310214149" TARGET=_blank><B>What Husbands Wish Their Wives Knew About Men</B></A> by Patrick M. Morley <BR><LI> <A HREF="http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0785282556" TARGET=_blank><B>The Choosing to Forgive Workbook</B></A> by Les Carter, Frank Minirth <BR><LI> <A HREF="http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/1565075722" TARGET=_blank><B>The Power of a Praying Wife</B></A> by Stormie Omartian, Michael Omartian <BR><LI> <A HREF="http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0842370943" TARGET=_blank><B>Touchpoints :</B> God's Answers for Your Daily Needs</A> ...Tyndale House Pub <BR><LI> <A HREF="http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0671733419" TARGET=_blank><B>Women Who Love Too Much : When You Keep Wishing and Hoping He'll Change</B></A> by Robin Norwood <BR><LI> <A HREF="http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0452275350" TARGET=_blank><B>Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay :</B> A Step-By-Step Guide to Helping You Decide Whether to Stay in or Get Out of Your Relationship</A> by Mira Kirshenbaum <BR><LI> <A HREF="http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0842366024" TARGET=_blank><B>Successful Family Ties</B></A> by Ron Ball <BR><LI> <A HREF="http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0307440850" TARGET=_blank><B>The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Families :</B> Building a Beautiful Family Culture in a Turbulent World</A> by Stephen R. Covey, Sandra Merrill Covey <BR><LI> <A HREF="http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/1556616643" TARGET=_blank><B>What If I Married the Wrong Person?</B></A> by Richard Matteson, Janis Long Harris <BR><LI> <A HREF="http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/089243810X" TARGET=_blank><B>With Open Arms :</B> Catholics, Divorce, & Remarriage</A> by John Hosie <BR><LI> <A HREF="http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/006250990X" TARGET=_blank><B>Annulment :</B> Your Chance to Remarry Within the Catholic Church</A> by Joseph P. Zwack <BR></OL>

Also for those in M recovory:<P>Learning to Live With The Love Of Your Life, I think it's by a guy named Chapman or Graham,or somthing I wasreading it on the plane last night.<P>Winning You Wife Back, By Gary Smalley<BR>Winning Your Husband Back, by Gary Smalley<BR>Love Is A Decision, By Gary Smalley<P>All great books and easy to read.<P>------------------<BR>BB<BR>

the 10 greates gifts i give my children..sorry dont remeber the guys name. I bought off the links on Chris's post.<BR>also- the lucifer principle ( human nature)<BR>any books by Ellis- dealing with anger<BR>light her fire- i cant remeber the author either.<P>funny, i never bought books until all this s*** happened. Now, i cant get enough.

I would just like to thank the three of you for the book lists. <P>And NSR I am truly impressed by how your post looks and all the effort you made making it so user friendly. <B>You get an A++!</B> <P>Have a wonderful and as stress free as possible pre-holiday season there guys. I know my husband hates this time of year big time. We were even discussing the upcoming events today. Still he is a "Scrooge". <P>------------------<BR>God bless you and all of us.<P>Samantha<BR>

Bringing it to the top... For those few here on Thanksgiving day... Something to consider for your shopping carts.<P>Jim

NSR, Thank you so much for the wonderful list, and the links, too. It's a great assembly of reading and help for these trying times. Thanks for sharing it with us.

NSR, this is such a GREAT list, I am bringing it back up in case someone missed it. I bought a new book today - "The Solo Partner" by Deluca, and it looks really good, tyoo. I also read one called "Infidelity" by Subotnik (can't remember the exact title as H took all my books with him to supposedly read- HA!).<P>I ordered Dr Dobson's Love must be Tough from the library since you have mentioned it several times. Expecting it next week. Thanks!<P>Roll Me Away<P>------------------<BR>"Life is made up, not of great sacrifices or duties, but of little things in which smiles and kindnesses and small obligations, given habitually, are what win and preserve the heart and secure comfort."<P>Sir Humphry Davy<BR>