Ok here it is...<P>I had asked my stbx, to come to his daughters meet the teacher night, (which is tonight) and he had said yes tuesday.. we were standing in front of my daughter, talking casual, (which is not all that much, normally) and he said it in front of her, as though he is definitly going... <P>now today, he called and left me a message he is not going, but will remain with my daughter, while I go alone... didn`t give his reason why.. <P>What would you do or say if you were me...<P>remember this is a coward, professional avoider... and even though (I know he is still atracted to me) we had our one time, in a long time, casusal talk, does he have to be so stupid to do this to our daughter..!<P>If I approach him in any way, or form about it, I know he will not respond as freindly as I would like, (not that he would be rude in front of our daughter) but he will stick to his guns, (stubborn as he is) and back off, as usual, being he can`t face, stress. emotional termiol, or any thing to do with me.... <P>I wish I could put it into words, in some way, that would get through to him, that this is important to our daughter, for him as well as I to meet the teachers, and to do it for her sake.. and although, those exact words, can be said, easily, (for/from me) he will feel I am pushing him to do so, for me as well as for her... (our daughter, is 11/12 yrs old, and is in middle school now, her first yr there, and it is a whole new experience for her, that I`m sure she will want to share with him, and have him know all the teachers she comes home to talk about...) it is a very vulnerable age, and being she came into menstral, as well, a very sensative age, also... <P>please reply asap....<BR>thanks<P>AV