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But now I'm struggling trying to keep logged in and I realise "I DON'T LIKE CHANGE". This is a challenge!
Hey TT - I don't like it either... I still can't change my password or my profile or anything... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />


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isn't it FRUSTRATING !! Boy are we hooked...... lol


Life may feel as if you are constantly getting kicked on a daily basis, living is about picking yourself up each day and going on and on and on regardless.

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RIF, I do hope you are keeping well. Easter has been and gone. Had a good cry last night while talking to my mum. She is a very low person and is always full of doom and gloom. She started going on about how laid back I am. According to her I should be following them around HK and should give the OW a bloody punch in the face etc etc. Anyway, she went on and on and on. What she wants is everything to be fine and back to normal. Well, it can't be so long as my WH remains in contact with OW. Mothers have a way of getting under your skin! Still, it was a long time since I'd let it all out in tears, so I don't think it was a bad thing.


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AW - yes I am hooked and proud of it! An hour a day keeps the shrink away!


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Hey TT !

Hope you found a Cadbury's Easter Egg there in HK ! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

I know what you mean anout your Mom. Some folks just want the 'annoyance' of having to worry about loved ones to be removed.

I'd like that removed too, but theres only two ways to achieve that objective : choke it down and ignore it, or deal with it.

Not sure what 'normal' is anymore. I think 'normal' after an A is a constant state of examination and adjustment of self and all relationships.

Crap isn't it ? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />


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Hey AW - Yeah, it's frustrating, but I'm still hooked!

Hey TT - I'm doing great! The First Lady's plane just took off so we can walk around the base again...


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Bob - delighted to see you around. I had a ridiculous amount of Cadbury's Easter Eggs. In fact on Easter Sunday, we lived on minestrone soup (homemade of course) and chocolate! I have really felt at a low ebb this past week and even the copious amount of chocolate did nothing to alter my mood. WH is so useless at talking and I know I've got to get brave and confront him over so many things. I would love for us to get over this and be one big happy family but I cannot imagine being intimate with him again. If he continues his relationship, I have to divorce him. I haven't got it in me to sit back and let his affair fizzle out. It is just that the very word 'divorce' just brings tears to my eyes. This is soooo hard. I've been so brave and strong for such a long time, maybe I'm having a delayed reaction.


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Hi all! Finally made it in? Where's Believer? Is she out looking for lost idiots?

Funky icons. At least more to choose from. Well, back to the grindstone. I'll try to stop by this evening.


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Hi, guys. I'm Back! Well, almost! I had not problem getting in. But it sure took a long time to get to this point. I am moving in 3 days. Now, I am completely lost. All these new folks and don't have a clue as to what has happened in the last month or so.

Aislinn, RIF, RH, TT, I see you all. I still have a lurker paranoia so I am "invisible" for now.

Can anyone give me an update? ROTFLMAO!

For me, WH was in town about 3 weeks ago, after wanting to smack him repeatedly, we did start to talk. NOt that it does much good at this point as we both now have lawyers. And that is BAD!.

But we have our first IC session this Saturday - the same day I move! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" />


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Morning mi hermanos!

How do I add smilies?

Dogs! I must be TT's long lost sister....I am hating change too....


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WH is so useless at talking and I know I've got to get brave and confront him over so many things. I would love for us to get over this and be one big happy family but I cannot imagine being intimate with him again. If he continues his relationship, I have to divorce him. I haven't got it in me to sit back and let his affair fizzle out. It is just that the very word 'divorce' just brings tears to my eyes. This is soooo hard. I've been so brave and strong for such a long time, maybe I'm having a delayed reaction.

TT being patient looks a whole lot like doing bugger all from a distance. Only you know if its been patience or conflict avoidance.

Thing is , though, you may lose your home and place in HK if you divorce, and I am not so rabidly anti CA that I don;t appreciate that.

Its hard for you. You're smart enough that you already know what to do in order to protect yourself if you DO divorce I'm sure.

Is your Mom living in HK with you ?

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Ooh boy, I don't like the new forum. Change! Bleah. It looks all cluttered and windows-ish. The ad and the bars down the side are awful. Now when my coworkers sneak up behind me, which they do constantly, they see "FALL IN LOVE - GUARANTEED". Fantastic.

I'll get used to it, but I sure hope that ad goes away!

Spoiled little brats, aren't we?

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Yuck I hate change! Took me a while to find y'all. I guess there are some cool features but I lost my sig line. Jen, what happened to your log-in?


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Hey Kimmy! - you have to actually reply to the post by hitting the 'reply' button and not the 'quick post' button...

Now, lets see how many gremlins we can put on here...
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Hey FAA! I have been asking about you. Glad you are still around. Maddy I am happy to hear about the dental and med coverage but very sorry about your M.


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Sheesh, stupid new servers! Two posts and I get logged out! Ok, I do have to run to get ready for work.

Quick update before I go. I will likely be filing for D tomorrow. Told WH I would give him a chance tonight to explain himself. We had another DDay last night (yep on my b-day). Seems like all this time I thought the hours and hours of calls was OW 2 the mother of OC when actually it was someone else. He refused last night to tell me who it is. I checked some more stuff this morning and told him that I am filing. He asked for a chance to come clean tonight. I told him ok, you come clean with every single detail and I will think about it but if you leave anything out I file for sure. I am sick. Where are the emoticon????


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Hey FAA - Great to see you again! How's your princess doing?

Hey Bob - I think I'm starting to get the hang of this new site... but some of the features still aren't working. Hope you're having a great day!

Hey GC - How are you doing? I'm not a big fan of change... except for my 'change of scenery' in a couple of weeks!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Hey FF - Well, at least the site is up... my e-mail is acting all goofy so I can't check it... hope you're having a great morning!

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FF... what rotten news. I'm so sorry.

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FF - I'm so sorry about your new D-Day. I posted right before you. I'll be praying for you and your family...

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i am having major issues with this new forum......not liking this so far.....

morning all...pass the coffee please.....


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