Hello to everyone.

Well…it’s a lonely existence without MB, eh?

This morning was my “temporary hearing” with the judge regarding WW’s petition for “separate maintenance”. I’m summarizing from my laptop and will post into MB when it is working again and I have internet access.

Our appt was at 9:30 AM. I showed up at about 9:10, my attorney at 9:20. We were called into the judge’s chambers right at 9:30, and WW’s attorney showed up about 5 minutes later. WW showed up at about 9:45. I could tell the judge was displeased. (at least WW wasn’t wearing pajama bottoms).

I know this shouldn’t enter into the picture, but WW’s attorney looks like a middle-aged wh*re. She has bleached blond hair all frizzed out, and was wearing some sort of a short black lacy dress with her b**bs half way showing. I was so glad she wasn’t my attorney. By contrast, I’ve got a very clean cut gentlemen in a suit by me, and I was VERY proud of the way he handled the case.

WW’s attorney began by telling the judge that we were having mid-life issues and that I ignored my wife, didn’t talk to her, and didn’t understand her need to seek a friendship elsewhere. She said her client didn’t want a divorce, she wanted to go to counseling Then, she told the horrid story of how I took her 2003 Thunderbird from her place of employment and replaced it with a 1997 Acura. The judge looked at me and asked me what kind of car I drive. I am SO glad I could say 1997 Honda. That was the end of the car discussion, period. (If I had said something like a new Corvette, my goose would have been cooked!!).

When the court room tramp finished tearing me down, the judge looked at my attorney for his response. He calmly said that this was a simple case of this woman being grossly emotionally involved with a man who she had met on the internet. He said we have obtained phone records that show that she recently spent over 100 hours on the phone with him in one month alone. He said that the house she is currently in is too big for her in that it is 5 bedroom and 3 baths, plus she has stated a desire to have this man and his wife move here into the marital home. Therefore, we believe the house needs to be sold immediately.

The judge asked to look at the financial affidavit. She asked me if I would pay the mortgage and utilities on a temporary basis. My attorney jumped in and said that we didn’t feel we should have to pay her phone, internet, can cable bills. The judge said she agreed and asked if we would be agreeable to paying the mortgage, gas, water, electric, and trash pick-up. My attorney said we were agreeable to that.

Then the attorney asked WW if there were any other pressing financial needs. She said she was having a hard time paying for her prescription and medical visit co-payments. The judge asked if I would pay for this as well. I told the judge that if she needed that, I would pay for it.

The judge asked if I had anything I wanted to say in response. That was my big moment. So…I told the judge how WW was talking to another man almost all night, was on the phone with him when I left to go to work, and was still on the phone with him when I came home in the afternoon. I told her that I had asked WW multiple times to go to a counselor with me, and she had steadfastly refused. One of the reasons given was that she told me she knew a counselor would tell her to end her relationship with OM, and she wasn’t willing to do that. Then, I told the judge how WW keep telling me what a mistake it was that she had married me, and that she knew God had brought her and OM together. How he wanted to divorce his wife. Also, I told the judge how she had said she would like to sleep with him, and I only accompanied her on that trip as a chaperone, which I had clearly told her before we went.

Then, I told the judge that on December 6 I gave her a letter that said she had to end her R with OM in order to continue our marriage. And I told the judge that my position on that had no changed, but to this date WW has refused to end that relationship.

I told her that I could no longer live this way, and that was the reason that I moved out.

I must say…you could’ve heard a pin drop in that small little conference room. Everyone in there was speechless.

The judge looked at WW’s attorney and told her it sounded like there was some decisions that needed to be made if this marriage was going to be saved. Her attorney didn’t say a word, they just got up and left the room when the judge dismissed us all. Afterwards, my attorney took me to another room and we talked. He told me that the synopsis I just gave was one of the most moving he had ever heard. He said from a legal point of view, it probably didn’t change anything, but it certainly gave the judge a clear understanding of what is really going on. Also, she will be the same judge who hears the divorce proceedings.

So, what I am paying is right at $1,500 per month in alimony, plus her medical expenses which I anticipate to be $100 - $200 per month. In comparison, since I left home on January 28 (2 months ago today), I have totaled the bills I have paid for her and they amount to $8,050. So…needless to say she is going to have to seriously curtail her spending and probably get a second job.

I had planned to go into work late today, but I was just too shook up over all this. I took the day off and have stayed at home most of the day. I went to the library for a while (Mimi – I checked out “Man On Fire” !!!!) and am going to my parents house for dinner tonight.

Frankly...I've given up all hope that she is EVER going to change

Reggie asked me to play catch when I got home yesterday, so I told him I would as soon as I walked Jeb. However, when I came back out he told me his Mom had told him he couldn't play with me.

He (#1 Son) went over and found her all calmed down when he got there, she was on the phone with OM. She told him she didn't understand how Dad could ask her go give up her R with OM when he makes her so happy.