I don't think you can...

...but you could send one 2 Faith1 and have her put it on the photo album.

-ol' 2long

Okay, let's see if this works:

http://pg.photos.yahoo.com/ph/mb_georgiaguy/album?.dir=/f143&.src=ph

Okay, let's see if this works:

http://pg.photos.yahoo.com/ph/mb_georgiaguy/album?.dir=/f143&.src=ph

Someone please let me know if you can / cannot view this.

Georgia

Okay, it works...

...but please tell me it isn't set up so *I* could delete your pic2res?

Hey, nice shot of JEB, but you're going 2 have 2 teach him 2 take pic2res of YOU! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

-ol' 2long

Thanks, 2Long -

I'm glad to know it works, now that I can attach links to Yahoo photo albums, I may have to use this more often. I don't think the viewer can delete, but no big deal if they can, this is not where I keep the originals.

Jeb and I did take some pix together at the park yesterday. Actually, I've been contemplating putting my picture here, but I'm afraid I would burst everyone bubble who may see me as a suave, dashing Georgia-type guy (with most of my teeth). Sometimes things are best left to the imagination.

But...you've all stuck with me so well, through so much....that I'm willing to disclose my true identify and lose the comfort of anonymity, so....here I am:

http://pg.photos.yahoo.com/ph/mb_georgiaguy/detail?.dir=99a9&.dnm=2637.jpg

A little war paint might help...


<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Right, you wish! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Well, we now know that your first name is MEL, right?? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" />

I am surprised that you get away with that hair cut in the aerospace industry, could get sucked into a jet intake you know. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Nice photo FGG. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

JL

Great pictures georgia! I really enjoyed them.

I also carefully read your posts and I think that you and I have to really detach and convince ourselves that we have to get a life of our own, the best one we can and not pretend we're doing that while we wait for our WSs.
I got a mail from Dr. Harley today and he says that because I am southamerican he recommends I wait 2 years in plan B!!!! I don't know if I can do that. I promised myself one year, but who knows.

He is also very correct in saying that the whole point of plan B is removing yourself from the pain. I think we tend to forget that. We should want to remove ourselves from the pain because it is so excruciating that our M may not survive it. But we are also addicted to our WSs and that's why we continue to not completely detach.

Anyway, I'm so busy I don't have much time now. But there are no guarantees that this job will last. Since I have it I feel more confident. I also feel better about myself.

Anger is obviously part of the process. I've been told that many times. I don't feel anger much either. But even when I do, I don't feel like acting on it against WH. It's notin my personality (CA). I'd rather let go and look forward.

Sadness is the prevailing feeling. Not regret, nor anger, sadness.

Good Morning, all -

Okay, I admit it...I'm not Mel.

cc - thanks for the post. Plan B for 2 years? I would never want to second guess SH, but I know that would be really tough. I guess I don't understand what being South American has to do with it. BTW - We have many S/A customers, mostly Venezuela and Brazil.

I completely understand the "sadness" part, that is where I am. I also feel a lot of sympathy for WW as I think she is setting herself up for a very rough life ahead, especially with her having med issues.

Last night I went mowed my parents yard, then had dinner with my friend (Phil) that WW and I were close friends with. Phil suggested a really nice Cajun restaurant close to his office...a great dinner.

Phil told me he hadn't seen WW at church in about a month, but his wife has talked to her within the last week. We didn't talk too much about her. He caught me up on people in our SS class and all the things going on at church. I miss being there. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />

We talked a lot about work. He owns his own company that is doing quite well and has expanded natonally very rapidly. He again asked me about working with him as a consultant to help him write long-term business plans and and set up an organizational structure. I may consider that this time, I think it might be kind of a fun challenge to do some management work outside of aviation and give me a chance to try out something new.

I haven't heard anything from WW this week, but she has (supposedly) done the income tax and I need to sign it so we can mail it. I've still not gotten an answer from my attorney about how to handle the refund.

Where, oh where, is Mimi??? Did she and H decide to take a permanent vacation and not come back?

Georgia

Good Morning, Georgia!

I'm back....

I knew that I would have a lot to say to you. I was so busy yesterday, doing GODDESS MAINTENANCE!!

I was thinking that we need a term for you. I don't think GOD will do. What was the name of that movie star you spoke of earlier? We need to change that mindset of yours. You said: "ridiculous Hawaiian print shirt". An Hawaiian shirt should not be so-described. We have got to get you out of this EDDIE BAUER rut. We've got to get you on a workout routine. How about a personal trainer?

Plus, I'm not so sure about your counselor. Your wife did not rob you of your future. The future is wide open for you. You have robbed her of her future with the wonderful you that you are becoming. Why are counselors so into this anger thing? I'm not into being angry I'm not sure that phase is necessary. You are resilient! You are a WARRIOR? A LORD? A PRINCE? ST akin to a GODDESS!! You are POWERFUL! INVINCIBLE! You are not going to let this bring you down.

HOW DO I LIVE WITHOUT YOU? Better sung by Trisha Yearwood. One of my theme songs. I play it often for my H. Because I want to know how I was supposed to do this after being with him for so long.....

Also, what is it about you guys and MAN ON FIRE? My H has seen it about 3 times, can quote some of Denzel's words.... Maybe an outlet for that anger.

I know. I'm almost paranoid about my identity. This forum is so freeing for me. My son knows my name here. He is so anxious about worrying about me. I want him to get on with his life. I'm not sure that he doesn't read here.

I didn't go to a fun place but FWH actually called our time together ROMANTIC.

So I'm BACK... Thanks for missing me. I missed you too.

Georgia,

I enjoyed seeing your photos. Jeb looks like a happy dog - lucky for him that he found you.

Strange that you look so much like me. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

Well, I'm back, and you have email.

-AD

Welcome back, Mimi. I did indeed miss you.

GODDESS MAINTENANCE - Now that's a scarey thought.

I think I am truly afraid sometimes of allowing myself a full-blown mid life crisis with all the accoutrements. It's like when Scarlett went to the ball while still wearing black (GWTW), I feel like I'm not entitled to "fun" yet. However, I will admit that when a T-Bird pulls up next to my '97 Accord at a traffic light...I feel just a little tinge of envy. But..I do so love my EDDIE BAUER clothes, I don't know that I could ever give them up.

I know that I've got to get myself back into shape. I was feeling really good I had lost so much weight and gotten toned up. Now I'm feeling slobby and my pants are getting tight. I've got to get my BP down as well. Any guess what I might expect to pay a P/T? We had a guy at church was served as kind of a P/T to the masses (degree in P/E, formerly with the local Y), but he left and no one has replaced him.

Okay, I'll go with the WARRIOR tag. I'm not Mel Gibson, but I can probably must enough courage to be a WARRIOR. Espcially with my sidekick JEB. WARRIOR with some funky clothes. (BTW - Jeb got groomed Saturday. Did you see his picture on my link? He looks great).

Yeah, I know what you mean about the anger issue. I don't want to be angry at her, so far I've not fallen into that trap. My counselor says my response is "atypical".

Man on Fire is good because it is action packed WITH A PLAUSIBLE STORY. That is what makes it good. Most of those movies where everyone / everything gets blown up has no feasible plot. Ex.: ConAir - a good movie, but you had to suspend you congnitive thinking to accept it as "plausible".

Anyway, I'm glad you and H had a good time. The destination doesn't have to be a "fun" place for you to enjoy romance together. It is neat that your H actually said that, obviously it made an impression on you. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Thanks for posting, nice to have you back.

Georgia

AD -

I've got your e-mail, I'll try to read it while I'm eating lunch and respond.

Georgia

WARRIOR GEORGIA:

I'm not thinking mid-life crisis! I'm thinking REVIVAL, REJUVENATION! CONQUER! Ok, I'm getting carried away....

Your counselor called your response "atypical", huh? So I guess that includes me and CC as well. I wonder if the counselor has experienced infidelity. Did he get this out of one of his textbooks? Counselors need to "get real". I would call him on this if I were you. Maybe he can learn something from you. In other words, I think your response is typical for someone who has had our experience.

Later...

WGG,

Regarding the anger thing....

I'm not surprised that you're not angry at this stage of your situation. I don't think I was angry either.

When I was angry is when I was in the throes of trying to change my exH's behavior so that I could stay married to him. Futile at best, but I gave it my all - and got VERY angry at that stage.

Later when I was at your stage it was more numb, sad, disbelief that I had reached that point.

I don't think your feelings primarily of sadness are atypical at all. Makes me wonder how much experience your counselor has with this. If you like him stick with him, and/or maybe keep your eyes open for someone else to counsel with.

Regarding exercise - Jeb and you go for walks daily I know - now that daylight savings time is here - you two can really walk now!!! He would love that. I go 3 miles daily with my border collie.

You see, CSUE wasn't angry either. I second the concerns about the counselor. Check on whether he is married and for how long? How old is he? I do think that he needs to be able to empathize with you along with having the credentials. This is speaking as a person who has had both good and bad therapists....

Thanks, Mimi...

This whole thing is definitely a battle of trying to maintain my own sanity and keep a positive outlook at times. I am beginning to try to get a handle on "now what" and where do I go from here.

I have really enjoyed being in the "old" house that I rent. I think I might be inclined to find an old house downtown that has potential for a "fixer upper" and make that a hobby (at the right time). I enjoy that sort of thing. However, I don't want to get too financially strapped as I suppose my 401K is about to take a major hit and I'm going to have to try to do some serious retirement fund catching up.

And...there is the issue of .... (ahem) .... women. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />

I don't know if I'm near to having that discussion yet. Remember the dr. on the airplane? Well, she's since met a guy and gotten married. I'm not so sure she did the right thing, it was all so rushed. She said a lot of things to me on the airplane that day that have really stuck with me as she was being so honest. One was that she would gladly give everything she had for a man that loved her. Now...she thinks she's found that. Time will tell.

On the counselor issue. I thought this would be a good idea to start working through stuff to get me "prepared" for the next part of life. I don't know if it's good or not. If he leads me down this path and I'm worse off (mentally) than before, I don't know what I've accomplished.

Okay, there is things to do and lunch is over.

BTW - Saturday was WW's B'day.

Georgia

Sorry...a little cross posting going on there.

Thanks, Mimi and CSue, for the encouragment on the anger issue. I told him (IC) that when this happened the first time around (OM#1), there was LOTS of anger (kinda like CSue says), but now the anger is greatly subsided.

The IC, FYI, is mid-70's, life long marriage and career counselor (Dr.). In a private practice setting. One of their sons was divorced and since remarried.

Really, you're making me think that the IC may be doing more harm than good.

Will see how it goest this week.

WGG (I like that).

GG,

Sounds like things went well in court. I hope the support is only temp. Your wife made her bed now she can fund it! Still I would use everything you have on the OM. Also I thought she was thinking of going for a visit? Can you use that to your advantage.

I know you feel guilty but only we have master over our actions. She is a grown adult.

BTW you are so mean!!! I miss my home. I grew up near San Antonio. Have not been home in almost three years. You must have driven through Seguin. I went to University there. If you ever go back you should check out my home town Fredericksburg. Right now Mom says the blue bonnets are all over the ranch. Man I want to cry I miss it so much. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> BTW your dog is so cute!!!!!

Mimi and CSue,

Have either of you read the Sweet Potoato Queen books. I think both of you would enjoy them. You have the same amount of moxy as she does. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />