Let's look at this positively, it's 39 items not 40 items, 11 pages not 12 pages.

Take it one item at a time......

Just things.....

Thanks, Mimi...

I'll try to look at it that way. My first inclination is for my attorney to respond with a request for all e-mails between her and any man not her H for the past 5 years. She recently told me she still have 1,000's from OM#1 saved on her computer.

But...I don't really want to join into this little game.

Other things she wants...

Copies of car titles that I own or co-own (the boys each have a car that with my name as co-owner when they bought them).

Listing of gifts from anyone other than my wife for the past 2 years. (Can anyone remember what they were given for Christmas, 2003 by their family members?).

Cell records from both my work and personal cell phones, all long distance calls from home or cell phones for the past 2 years, etc.

Anyway, you get the point. Obviously, too, is a listing of every conceibable financial transaction. Including all bank statements, canceled checks, deposit slips, credit card statements, etc. for the past 2 years.

I think I know how I'm going to use some of that vacation time....

Georiga

Georgia,

I think your WW will look back on this a few years from now and feel pretty foolish.

The lawyers can run up the bill with this "discovery" process and as far as I can see, neither of you get any advantage from it.

I'm watching and learning. If my W and I D, I need to make sure that it goes through as an uncontested D. If we agree to everything - and we sorta have agreed - it will cost us $168 filing fee (not counting the $500 we already paid).

When I get worked up about her contacts with OM, I often think I should go for a D on the basis of adultry. I'll try very hard to keep my head and avoid the legal conflict.

-AD

It is unfortunate. This is lawyer stuff. The lawyer probably has it in a template somewhere.

AD -

I am really (much to Mimi's chagrin, I suppose) unhappy about this. However, all the nice folks here have been warning me for a long, long time to stop being Mr. Nice Guy and watch out for myself.

I suspect I know what the deal with the boys cars is all about. They needed my name on the title so I could co-sign the loan (several years ago). I spent no money on the cars, certainly never expect any back.

However, if WW's attorney can show that I am part owner of those cars, they will (I assume) count as assets that I have to split with her. In other words, if their cars are worth $8,000, then I will have to give her about $4,000 to compensate.

I'm getting really, really close to unleashing my attorney and telling him I'm ready for her to feel the impact of her actions. Knowing that I do have the option of requesting a jury trial is also looking really appealing.

I know...come tomorrow I'll be all calmed down and back to being fairly sedate. However, I've got to spend tomorrow with the FAA and I always find that to be less than fun, as well.

Highly stressed and getting all worked up....

Georgia

Georgia,

Is there anything keeping you from signing over the cars to the boys?

I think all you have to do is sign the back of the title, and have them take it in to whatever office handles that. They might have to have some kind of document from you indicating that you are not selling it to them (so they won't have to pay sales tax.) In two weeks a new title will come in the mail with your name off it. (Unless you are on the loan or are buying their insurance.)

-AD

AD -

The loans are long since paid off. Signing them over is something that I will certainly discuss with the attorney next week.

However, keep in mind that both WW and I are under a court order not to dispose of any property. If the cars are seen as "mine", and I give them away, I may be violating that court order.

Obviously a question for the attorney.

Georgia

"However, if WW's attorney can show that I am part owner of those cars, they will (I assume) count as assets that I have to split with her. In other words, if their cars are worth $8,000, then I will have to give her about $4,000 to compensate."

Did you pay 4K of your community money for those cars? No. You co-signed their loans 2 reassure the lender that they'd be covered if your kids defaulted on their loans.

In any case, I seriously doubt your W would expect your kids 2 sell their cars 2 buy YOU out of them so you could pay her, which is, in effect, what she'd be doing.

-ol' 2long

At this point, this is all nothing but speculation. And...Mimi could be right, this could all just be part of a boilerplate template from the attorney that she just uses and no one (WW included) has even thought about the boys cars as an issue. (See, I've calmed down already).

Surely....she wouldn't risk further alientating her own kids to get more money. I really don't think she would do that.

However, I do want to make really, really sure that I'm proteced as much as possible. I don't mind living downtown and lowering my standard of living, but I don't want to be FORCED into this so WW can continue her cushy lifestyle and maybe end up living with OM.

Georgia

I think it might be helpful to speak with your attorney ASAP.

Unfortunately, ASAP is next Wednesday at 3:00 PM.

He won't talk to you on the phone? I don't like that!

I am not that person named ADA on GOOGLE! I promise you!

Do you think I need to change my username? I'm thinking that I might do that. I don't like folks thinking that I am ADA WHATEVER......

Mimi...he will talk to me on the phone, but there is so much to go over that there is hardly any point in calling him with one or two things. The assistant in his office told me it would be good if I could comply with this list before coming in next Wednesday. That is going to take some kinda work on my part.

On the ADA stuff. I believe you. Changing your name is up to you, I see no point in it. How in the world would we get acclimated to you being anyone but "MIMI - DOMESTIC GODDESS"? What other name could possibly fit?

As I alluded, I will be out all day tomorrow on field trip to Atlanta. Mimi...you're in charge while I'm gone.

I really hope that you and the family have a great dinner together tonight. It's so nice to hear of OS and H getting close and maybe getting over the resentment issues.

Georgia

OK, Georgia. I'm holding down the fort.

I AM WHO I AM and I AM NOT ADA! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

Mimi...I believe you.....however, if you deny it one more time I'm going to start wondering....

Buenos Noches....Senora Ada (did I do that right)?

Stop it! Stop it! You know I have identity issues!

I do not speak SPANISH! I took FRENCH as a FOREIGN LANGUAGE!

Think what you wish my friend. I AM WHAT I AM! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

HINT! You were close at one point. Now you are getting colder! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Okay...don't go ballistic.

If it'll help you any, I took German. Now is that a waste, or what?

I've picked up a little (very little) Spanish from our S.A. customers and some Hispanic employess we've got around here.

However, WW took 4 years of French and each of the boys took 3 years of French. Sometimes I felt quite left out.

I must admit, I had truly wondered if YS or OS was attending the same college I went to. However, as you've nixed the state, I guess that's not the case.

No need in you have any issues tonight. You've got your family there along with H and OS together.

Enjoy !!!

Condelezza?