FGG,

In all this legal wrangling just remember what your goal is.

There is a saying "Lawyers love angry clients."

I think no matter how much time and money y'all spend on this, the results will probably be approximately the same - about 50/50 division of assets. The only difference is that before you divide it, you can give the legal folk as much as you want so that it becomes a 45/45 division of assets.

Disclaimer: I'm in no way shape or form qualified to give anybody advice about anything legal.

-AD

I'm back....

I got in about 1:30 this morning so I slept in a bit. I've got a lot to do today, and I'm trying to get ready for the meeting with my attorney at 3:00 this afternoon.

More later....

Georgia

Mimi...that was very, very nice of you (re: LM).

It takes a lot to apologize, especially when the temptation is to just sweep it under the rug and act as though it never happened.

Thanks, Georgia for noticing.

PROVERBS 31 WOMAN.. You understand my mission statement these days.

I

Yes, I do..

H, YS, OS are fortunate to have a PROVERBS 31 woman in the house. (As well as your M). Who knows, maybe she too will become a Proverbs 31 woman and follow in her daughter's footsteps!!

Georgia

For you IT experts:

Is it possible to access my former thread, the one before the split?

Georgia

I am not an IT expert, but here is a link to the old board from which you can look for your old posts. Trying to go back to previous pages will probably locate your old thread...or where you can search. (I also think you can search on the new forum.)

Old Forum -Pre-switch...last date 3/23/05

Here is your old thread started in Oct. '04

Old Thread

No IT trick here...

By the way, I have a Notable Posts thread in my bookmarks/favorites from which I can easily access the old board.

You can bookmark your old thread...make it a favorite, for easy access.

Thanks very much Trix. I'm getting ready for my attorney's appointment in one hour and I couldn't find my original PLAN B letter. I knew I had posted it.

I've got it now, thanks again.

Georgia

Good Morning to all -

I met with the attorney yesterday afternoon and gave him what I material I do have and we went over each item point by point (all 39 items). Seems like I only have to "produce" what is actually in my possession, I'm not required to go out and get documentation that I don't already have. An example is #1S's car title. I don't have it in my possession, so we just respond with "in the possession of #1S", and that's all. There are still some things I need to get him and I'll try to have that within the next week or so.

In our request back to her for her to produce items, we put all of her phone records for the past 2 years and all e-mails to/from any man other than her H for the past 5 years. We'll see where that gets us. We only responded with a request for 4 items, the 2 above, normal financial records, and documentation related to any trips outside the US in the past 12 months. They will have 30 days to respond upon receipt of our request.

When I got home Monday afternoon, my neighbor came over and told me that WW just drove by really slow looking at the apartment. Then, Monday night on the way to Atlanta she called my cell phone. She didn't leave a message, and I've heard anything from her sense. I don't know what's going on with her.

I suspect that she may be wondering if I'm still living there. The landlord just sodded the front yard, including my parking spot. So now I have to park around back and my car isn't visible from the road any longer. As she knows that I was looking at houses, she may think I've moved already. It would be nice if I could keep the new house a secret, but she'll find out soon I'm sure.

Everything is on track for the house closing next Tuesday. The homeowners are moving the rest of their stuff out this weekend. I think I'll walk over Saturday and see if I can offer any help. I plan on going to an appliance store tomorrow afternoon and buying a refrigerator, washer, and dryer.

This afternoon my SS class is having a dinner picnic at a nearby lake (5:30 PM). I will be going to that, fixed one of my world-famous tossed salads last night.

GOOD MORNING MIMI..

There, I have to say that just to make sure I don't get in trouble for "dissing" the GODDESS.

Georgia

Oh...there was one more thing from my response to the "Discovery". One of the 39 items from WW's attorney was as follows:

"All documents showing the identity, including full names, addresses and telephone numbers of all witnesses who you will rely upon for proof of any and all allegations in your pleadings and for proof of all financial matters involved in this action."

So...in my response, which my attorney really liked, was the following:

#1S/DIL
#2S/DIL
WW's parents
Local clergyman that I was seeing for most of last year.
Local IC#1
Local IC#2
OM#1
OM#2
Couple from church that were our best friends
My / WW's physician

These are all people who have knowledge of the situation. I, hopefully, will not have to use any of these folks. However, by having them listed I reserve (as I understand it, anyway) the option of having these folks tell what they know about the situation.

Georgia

Thanks for saying GOOD MORNING, GEORGIA:

I'll share with you my AFFIRMATION for today. Said this to myself as I was walking up to my job.

"Welcome and embrace any life challenge as an opportunity for personal growth". So I'm excited today about any challenge that may come my way. I see it as the SPIRIT talking to me. That being said...

You are now playing HIDE AND SEEK. Your WW is trying to catch you. Make sure to HIDE and to remain DARK!

A part of me relates to her. You are so much a part of her and always will be. She can't give up the OM but you also are a part of her and she wants to be near you, wants to know what you are doing, wants to keep up with you. Therefore, the DRIVEBYS.... I am the DRIVEBY queen. However, I was the BS. She is the WS and needs to suffer and feel the pain of losing you, missing you. I didn't deserve the pain I was feeling.

Get it, my friend?

DARK! DARK! DARK!

Hi Mimi....

I'm about as dark as I can get. I'm at the bridge of the ship....the way that is chugging across the Atlantic while she has jumped off and decided to go for a swim. The rest of the passengers are still on board.

I am so glad to hear your mindset. You are doing so good, I can "feel" it. You are in the state of mind now where you can minister to you Mom, and others.

On the way to Atlanta Monday night, I decided to take the back roads instead of the interstate. It was about dusk, and I was driving through these country roads with the moonroof open and the windows down. It was cool outside, and I had on a Fleetwood Mac CD. I just couldn't help but feeling really good. I still almost feel guilty about that at times...but it is SO nice after so long of being beat-up (emotionally).

And Tuesday, on the way to Houston, I realized (for the first time) that I am beginning to have episodes where this whole drama isn't permeating my thoughts constantly. I don't know if you / others understand this. But...for so long, this has been my first thought in the morning, throughout the day, if I wake up at night, etc. But...I am BEGINNING to be able to function without being an emotional cripple. And....IT IS WONDERFUL!!!

All right, I didn't mean to get started. I'm glad you're feeling good....you deserve it.

Georgia

Georgia:

Not being a spoilsport, I want to remind you that she has caught you and found you and then down you go.

I think she is on the prowl!

I'm trying to innoculate you against having one of your hour long conversations with her when she shows up at your door. OK?

She may try to come in on a lifeboat.....

You might be tempted...

Thanks, Mimi..

You're right about that. When she called my cell phone Monday night, the first thing I though of was the last time I had a conversation with her followed by about 3 days of depression.

I don't really want that right now. I wish I could keep her from finding my new home, but as long as there are utility records I suppose she can find me.

Georgia

I guess you can't change your cellphone number can you?

I've thought of that, but there are so many business associates that have my number that it would be a big hassle. I can just keep not answering it when she does call, and that seems to work okay. Her pattern is that she will call (and I see her cell # on the caller ID), then followed shortly thereafter my a # which shows as "PRIVATE" on caller ID. She fooled me one time with the PRIVATE trick, so she keeps trying it.

Yep. You see now that she is on the prowl. My FWH caught me with that Private number thingy.

As long as you can handle hearing her voice.....sounds OK and if you answer and it's her, immediately hangup.

Mimi...what's the deal with all the talk of rat's?

Hummmmm....confused.

Incredibly enough, I'm still working on Lenten Lands. The autobiography of David Gresham, son of Joy Gresham (wife of C.S. Lewis).