No, you're not the only one! I'm excited for you too.

Why don't you just take off and run around getting your stuff together etc.?

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Am I the only one that has trouble concentrating while awaiting proof of the affair from a DNA lab?

Because these pesky customers with broken airplanes keep bugging me.

Seriously, I do have stuff to wrap up before I "delegate". But...I'm feeling the "delegating bug" coming on.

Georgia

FGG:

That's cool!

The guy that built our house was a judge. He also got in2 writing, 2, and I was aware of a "lost races" theme novel he'd written. Around the 2rn of the cen2ry, "Scientific occultism" was really popular. I only just found out that he wrote a book on the subject (several years after he'd sold our house). Unfor2nately for me being able 2 do internet searches for his descendents, some gal in the 20s claimed 2 have transcribed letters from him after his death, describing what the afterlife was like. This work was recently republished, so now I get hundreds of results when I search for his full name!

-ol' 2long

Good Morning to all -

Wow, 2Long, your story sounds even weirder than mine. I stopped by the library yesterday and got the book that this gentleman wrote. Seems he was the editorial page editor of our local paper in the 1940's - 1950's. In 1960 he was tasked with writing a history of the newspaper from 1785 to 1960. It is a very thick hard back book with his picture on the jacket. I have decided that I will scan that and put it in a small frame on one of the fireplace mantles (Welcome home, Earl!!).

His other writings are all Sci-Fi. He published some nouvellas in a magazine (Weird Tales) in the 1920's - 1930's. One of the mags I've seen on-line has one of his stories and one from H.G. Wells in the same edition. I must admit, I find this a bit freaky.

Speaking of...I met another neighbor yesterday afternoon. I was at the house and a young man (Nate) walked down from the house next to the elderly lady next door (Mrs. Reece). First thing I noticed was he had tatoos up both arms. He ended up inviting his wife (Aimee) and 3 y.o. D (Zoie) down to the house. He just got his Bachelors in Math and is teaching p.t. Not sure what Aimee does. However, they were as nice as any couple could be. We talked about his body art a bit. Seems he grew up in Chicago and was a bit wild in his youth. However, now he's married and domesticated with lotsa' tatoos.

The walk-thru went very well. My agent told me that WW called her yesterday afternoon and told her that I wasn't supposed to be buying a house, that I was supposed to be working on my marriage. I was really, really surprised that she didn't show up last night. I am going to be really relieved when I get the papers signed at noon today and I own the house.

Speaking of which, the owner gave me the keys yesterday so I started moving in last night. They have left the house immaculate. I went to Wal-Mart and bought shelving paper so I could start moving my dishes in.

So...closing at noon today, then I officially start moving. I took Jeb over last night and he approved of the place. He now owns every tree in the back yard.

#1S is off on Wednesdays and he's going to help me move big stuff tomorrow. I should be spending tomorrow night in the house, if all goes well.

I am taking off the rest of this week and Monday is a holiday, so I'll not be back until next Tuesday. However, I'll try to stop by the library and post some and keep up with my friends here.

Be here for a few more hours.

Georiga

OH MG!

YOU'RE A DOMESTIC GODDESS!

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What color did you get for the shelves? Coordinated with the wall color of the kitchen?

Remember that I once denied being OC? Well, I do like clean and neat, everything in its place, etc.

Surely you didn't expect me to put dishes in cabinets with no shelving paper, did you?

I got that red/white plaid stuff, the real thick padded stuff that just lays in and gives your dishes that "cushy" feel when you sit them in the cabinet.

However, I've not been accused of being a "domestic goddess" too many times. As the first thing I'm going to do (after I get moved in) is go stick my hands in dirt...can I be the "LAWN CZAR" instead?

Georgia

I knew it! I knew it!

You are really MARTHA STEWART. You've been posting from jail all this time, pretending to be in PLAN B....

I am excited for you and your move into your 'new' home.

Are the appliances being delivered today?

Thanks, Trix. The appliances are being delivered tomorrow as Best Buy couldn't narrow it down to a time of day (after closing at noon), so they're coming tomorrow.

Okay, folks....I'm leaving. Off to my bank to pick up my cashiers check for the down payment, then to the attorneys office for closing at noon.

I'll post when I can.

Thank you all for your concern, posts, and prayers.

Georgia

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Wow, allow me to vent a bit...What exactly does she mean by YOU are supposed to be working on your M. What more can YOU do? I guess since you are ENTIRELY to blame, it is ENTIRELEY up to you to make the M work (sorry about the heavy sarcasm). Grrrr...what a fog-addled brain she has...

And remember...you CAN be his friend too (yeah right, in another life when he weren't talking to your W for hours at a time...in what christian, moral existence do these two live in that this is even REMOTELY OK).

Sorry, can't beleive she would talk with your agent and try to get this deal to fall....grrrr...and her motive is what? So you would come home and be OK with her talking with OM at all hours of the night?

I am so sorry that your W is such a slow learner.

She WILL come around...sooner or later...it's a matter of WHEN. I hope she doesn't wait until she's gone to answer to God, but I'm afraid that is what is going to happen. I am so sorry.

I am so thankful you are there for your family.

SHMI


Reminds me of a line from Peter Gabriel's "Secret World" (which used 2 be one of my favorite songs, until Kily pointed out that it was about his affair ending):

"Did you think you didn't have to choose it?
That I alone could win or lose it?"

-ol' 2long

Good Morning to all –

I’m back!!!

I’ll try to make this as short as possible as I have a lot going on today to catch up at work.

Closing went off with no problems on Tuesday. The house was left in wonderful condition and very clean. I had all the small stuff moved in by Tuesday night (I skipped pottery). Wednesday #1S came over and we went to breakfast together, then we moved stuff. We had everything moved by mid afternoon and I spent all day Thursday putting away (a place for everything, everything in its place!!).

And...Thursday night was the anticipated visit from WW. I was sitting in my living room and relaxing while reading. The front door was open (with just the storm door closed) and I looked up and there stood WW. So (against my better judgment) I went out and we sat on the front porch swing and talked for about 2 hours. We started out with pleasant conversation about miscellaneous stuff at school and things. However, the conversation turned more serious and I told her that I wouldn’t work on an M with OM involved. She said that he isn’t the issue and this whole thing has been blown out of proportion. She’s taking a new tact now. She’s telling me that I can’t hold her accountable for all those things she said (such as wished she had never married me, etc) because she was depressed and didn’t mean what she was saying.

However, she still insists that OM will be part of her life. She tells met that she feels like a failure because her kids won’t even have anything to do with her and her own parents have misconstrued this whole thing. I asked her if she had considered giving up OM. She said she had thought about it but she said she wouldn’t have much of a life without him.

She asked about the house, how much I paid for it and where I got the money. I told her she would find all of that out in due time. She asked if she could come in and see it and I told her no. She wanted to know why not and I told her that this home was my sanctuary where I find peace and that I didn’t want her to come in and critique everything the way she did with my apartment.

She left, but she was crying and all upset. Needless to say, it really upset me too. We were both sitting on the front porch crying. But.....OM is still there and still what her life revolves around. I told her that I have lost hope of her ever giving up OM, and that I would not continue in a M with her as long as he was involved.

It was so hard. It was so pleasant to see her, to sit on that porch swing and talk with her. She looked so good and I wanted to just wrap my arms around her and hold her. I felt so much empathy for her with the pain she is going through, to see her cry hurts me so much. She told me the school gave her a $50 gift certificate to Carrabbas’ (sic?) and asked if I’d go to dinner with her. I told her no thanks.

She called my cell phone Friday night and left a message that she had a lot of candy from the classroom and would like to bring it over for me to give to Reggie. I didn’t call her back and I’ve not heard from her again since then.

It is SO nice to have my own home. There is no way to describe the feeling of being able to come “home” to my own house. It is such a huge step forward in my life. It felt so good to get hot, sweaty, and dirty working on MY house. I have already transformed the very unsightly storage building in the backyard back to its original configuration as a single car garage. I tore out the end of it where someone had boarded it up and installed a single door. Then, I painted it to match the house. It looks great, if I may so say.

Yesterday I spent most of the day in yard work and planting flowers. I’ve put up some hanging baskets on the front porch. It felt SO good to get my hands in dirt again and plant things. I’ve missed that so much!!!

I’ve spent a considerable amount of time with my neighbor (Mrs. Reese). She is so lonesome since her H of 70 years died 4 years ago.

Okay, there is work to be done. I missed you all...look forward to hearing from you.

GOOD MORNING MIMI.....

How is your mother doing? I would appreciate an update on her condition.

Georgia

Hello FGG,

It's good to get your report.

I think you're doing great.

Talking to your W at this juncture seems reasonable to me. At least now you know that she is still on her dead-end track.

Looks like we both moved this weekend. I won't trash your "tread" with my story. That's what my tread is for.

-AD

Hi ADtE...

Actually, I was just reading your thread while waiting for my meeting which starts right now.....

I hope all goes well for you, I know it's a hard step to take.

Georgia

Hi Georgia, I'm SO glad you're back! I missed you!

And YOU ARE DOING SO GREAT!!!!!!!!I envy your calmness when talking to WW.

I do hope she reconsiders her position, she seems to be realizing the mess she's got herself into....

I'm at work so I can't write much

FGG:

You did good. Wish I could say the same for me.

I'm sticking 2 my guns, though. Problem is, I feel like I'm expected 2 shoot my W down since she obviously doesn't want 2 crash and burn on her own. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

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-ol' 2long

Thanks, 2Long....

Just remember, even in WWII, there were lots of battles that were lost before the war was won. (There, I can do it too!).

And...while I'm thinking of it. I met the other neighbors (opposite side from Mrs. Reese). A young couple, probably late 20's, early 30's. She is a pediatrician (still in residency, I think). I think he's a med student.

Actually, he lives in an apartment in the back (I'm told) and they are engaged to be married in September. They told me that they like to have neighborhood bar-b-ques and said they will have another soon and would like for me to come when they do. They sounds nice!!! I would really like that.

Georgia

Georgia:

I am disappointed in you!

You were hard-headed!

What did I tell you about the expected visit from WW?

What were you supposed to do?

I want to hear your answer and then I will get back with you.

Do you secretly NOT want to RECOVER your M?

BTW, I went to see my mother on Saturday in the hospital. There was nothing spectacular about the visit. My mother was my mother. I did the right thing.

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GG,
I haven’t posted to you recently but I want you to know that a day doesn’t go by that I don’t check in to see how you’re doing. I truly wish things were different in your life. You’re such a nice person.

It boggles my mind that after having lived with you all these years, having children with you and sharing so much of your mutual lives together, that your WW simply can’t make the pragmatic decision (forget arguments about weather she is having an affairs, the right or wrong as to relationship with the OM, or her prerogative as an adult to have friends of her own that you may not like or approve of) to simply do what’s best for herself; and if nothing else. That she just doesn’t tell the OM that she can’t speak with him ever again because it’s painful to the man who is her husband and is destroying her life as she knows it is beyond anything reasonable.

That she continues to be so self destructive, choosing instead to be isolated and in pain is beyond me to comprehend.

GG, I have said it before and I will say it again. Her behavior is a total mystery; one that reaches far beyond marital problems that I feel are symptomatic of something larger and more troublesome. I truly don’t wish to be tiresome but let me once again suggest that to possibly get some insight into what’s going on with your WW, the best kind of expert to consult with would be a top Behavioral Phycologist. Some one who might be able to profile her and give you some understanding as to what’s going on in her foggy mind.

I can’t believe that she is unique. Somewhere there must be a case study on a similar situation and I kind of think that it might be worth some time and effort to investigate this angle…if for no other reason then your own continued peace of mind.

Coach.

PS. Sincere cogrates on your new home. May G-D’s grace be upon you and all that live in your home, from this time forward.

OUCH!!!

Yes, as soon as she left I was thinking about Mimi's forewarning and admonishment to be prepared. I know that I was supposed to not communicate with her and repeat the NC with OM message. I did make sure that message got across loud and clear (again)....but I know that I indulged her in coversation that I shouldn't have.

It is so plain and obvious to see her trying to wiggle right back into my life, all the while keeping up with OM too.

However, as soon as she left I got busy with "house stuff" again and I didn't suffer too much of a set-back over this. The worst part of it for me was seeing her so upset, which hurts me a lot. However, everytime she reaffirms her committment to OM, it just makes me that much more assured that I have done the right thing by leaving her and moving on with my life.

Coach, I too believe that there are issues far beyond marital stuff here as well. She told me how much she likes this counselor she is seeing, but I'm not sure what (if anything) she is getting out of her sessions. She did tell me her counselor is "non-judgemental" and doesn't tell her what she should or shouldn't do. I don't know what to make of that.

Mimi....can we be friends again?

Georgia