Hi There.
The site being down delayed much follow up, but I can catch up a bit.
Plan A continues, though it is clearly one sided. Two conversations with OM (one initiated by me and the other initiated by him) resulted in him pushing WW further away at my expense. I could not believe some of the things he said to me comparing my WW to his wife and one of the previous woman he cheated with. He compared them to mules. If my WW knew she would be furious, but she would never believe me so I have not said anything.
On the plus side, we have had some great lengthy, real discussions that focused on her and what she was thinking and needing. I am learning a great deal about her thoughts, though I don't like all of them. It is still helpful. I just wish we had had these talks more in the last few years. She is now saying that separation is the way to go and on to Divorce. She wants this to start as soon as the kids finish school. I told her that is not what I want, but I will support her decisions. But, she will have to put the next agreement on the table and talk to her lawyer. The last time we negotiated an agreement, she threw it out 2 weeks later.
I think I am fighting a major long shot of a battle. Even when she recognizes her real situation with OM, she has been lieing about her feelings to me for 8 years. How can you overcome that. I often think it would be a lot easier to just start over. But, I still love her and the kids are definately worth this fight and pain.
