WH moved out 6 weeks ago tomorrow. I sent the B letter to him and hopefully he read it. I have heard from him maybe 3-4 times during the 6 weeks. The last time we spoke was on St. Patricks day, and I asked if he had read the letter. He said no not yet, but was going to that night. I have not called him and I got a call last week but did not speak. I guess he read it and now is living his new life with her.

When he left he moved to her Apt. out of state 11 hours away. He said the one-two times we spoke, he did not know what he was doing, how long he would be there, and he did not have a job, but that he was getting by money wise. i asked if that meant, she was paying, he did not say.

I spoke with his Mom on easter and she said she got a call from him that day and that OW must have been with him. i asked why and she said because he said "OW says hi and happy easter". She has never even heard WH speak of this woman. He has never talked to his family or anyone about his affair and he knows his mother is not happy with him up and leaving me for her. She said she did not say anything back. I can not believe he had the gall to say that to her when they had never met and he has not even told his mom, I am living with OW. He has really lost it.

I guess I will continue to stay dark. I really feel like my love is fading more because he is not attempting to call or speak with me. he acts like he does not care. he is off having this fun life with someone who has no responsibilities in a sunny, and exciting place. I just feel that this is making it easier for him to move on and not feel the guilt. He felt guilt when he was here, so he left.

I am just sad that he is trying to include her in his family after he says it is not about her, but not wanting a marriage. He also said I was always the perfect wife, that I did everything for him and no one will ever love him the way i do.

Plan B is a way to protect your love for your WS and to allow your WS to try and get his needs completely met by the OP. It is very difficult, but if you do it properly one of two things will happen: he will see the reality of OW eventually and realize that this is not the dream come true he had fantasized, or he will not "get it" and you will have taken the time to work on yourself spritually, emotionally and toward independence. You will be well on your way to working out the issues that you have and that your M had. You will move on, wiser and ready for a REAL genuine relationship in your future and you will be without guilt as you worked your way out of the M.

Plan B does not include most of what your post states. You are making a hard task SO much harder by not truly doing a Plan B. No contact means NO contact either directly or indirectly.

If you can't stay in NC with your WH how can you expect your WH to be in NC with the OW?