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I never thought I'd be here
#1348015 03/31/05 12:59 PM
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When I got married 5 years ago,I never thought I'd be here. My husband had an affair when I was 2 months pregnant. She left a msg on my cell to tell me when I was 7 months pregnant. My husband truely seemed to be sorry for his mistake but this Jan the OW called me at work. That night I thought my husband and I should call the OW together to get a few things straight. He was, of course, not happy with the idea. Apparently he told her he would marry her if he wasn't in this situation. Situation being, he's already married!! I filed for leagal seperation a few days later. He moved into his parents house. I have continued to work on myself and our M. He on the other hand isn't sure if he still wants to be married. Any advise would be greatly appreciated.

BW 30 (me) WH 31 D-DAY JUN 1 2004 DD 3YRS DS 8MO
Re: I never thought I'd be here
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Sorry you are here. Some advice needed here pls.

[url=http://www.marriagebuilders.com/cgi-bin/ultimatebb.cgi?ubb=get_topic&f=31&t=016911]My Story[/url] BH (Me) 28 FWW 26 M 9/01 A#1 EA/PA 5/04 - 12/04 (Prof. from her school) A#2 PA 11/04 - 12/04 (XBF) D-day 12/9/04 NC 1/05 In Recovery :)
Re: I never thought I'd be here
notsosadman28 #1348017 03/31/05 08:28 PM
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LLH,

First thing is to demand there be NO CONTACT between he and she. As long as they are still connected in any way, any healing or reconciliation cannot happen.

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Edited to add: "He on the other hand isn't sure if he still wants to be married." This is the most common statement that allows him to be a cake-eating fence sitter.

Demands must be made, or he will sit on that fence till the cows come home.

Last edited by krusht; 03/31/05 08:33 PM.
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