I have talked to 2 of WW sisters this week and both expressed dismay at what she is doing. The baby sister suggested to me today that I start dating. We have been legally separated since Sept 04. What do you folks think? Personally I don't think I'm ready. Dr. Phil says to finish one relationship before starting another. I agree do you?

Yes, I agree.
D first and even give yourself at least a year is what I've heard the IC's suggest. I know that sounds like a long time but I bet it would be worth it to really heal and possibly make you a healthier person to date.

You can also retain your integrity and honor. That can also be good for your resume`.

You need time to heal true. I am 52 as well. I feel that as we get more mature(not older) that it is important for us to have a relationship. I feel that we need that special person in our life. How do you feel? Do you feel like you have healed from everything ? Are you filing for the D yet ? Are things really over with
WW ? If you are sure your M is over and feel fine with it, then you should be filing for the D. Once you get through taht then you can get involved with someone else. For now I would take myself out for dinner and meet others and talk. We have a couple local resteraunts where alot of single people eat dinner at the bar just so they do not dine alone. I might start with something like that. Just to have others to talk to. Many people do not even drink - its just nice to talk to others. I as a woman would not like to date a man who is not even divorceed yet. I would not want to go through all of that with someone I do not really know. You know what I mean ? It is a very emotional time -after such a long M. Take care I think you just need some company around you.

Thank you for your replies. Do I think the marriage is over? I don't know. I am hoping she comes to her senses but I'm not sure she will. I am at a state of mind now that I can't give anymore to this relationship while she is still talking to OM. I can't financially support her anymore. But your right I do need some company. I play golf with my buddies on the weekend and my college age son comes home ever so often. But I have to admit I am lonely. But I think dating at this point is not an option.

Take your time. If you are still hoping she comes to her senses than you are not ready to date.

I think there is hope as long as you want there to be, if that makes sense.

If not, then there is a very special lady out there just waiting for you and she needs for you to be whole and happy when you find her.

I am 45 and it has been almost a year since I called off my wedding and asked you know who to move out, and I know I am not ready to date yet.

I joined eHarmony but couldn't go through with any dates they fixed me up with, but I sure did meet some nice guys.

Take your time, when and if you marriage is finally over you will not have to question it. Your heart will tell you.