Hi
I would really appreciate any input on my situation from anyone. My story is this. I have been with my WH for 17 years. We have 3 kids. ages 2, 9 , 12. My WH moved out in August last year, to be with OW, he moved back in in Dec. but never established NC with her. Unbeknownst to be. This past 2 weeks has been horrible. He moved out again about 3 or 4 weeks ago, to OW. About a week ago, i recieved a phone call from WH's sister that WH had called her and was very drunk and he sounded suicidal. So i get out of bed, it was 1 a.m and go on the look for him, i figured he was at the bar where he spends 90% of his time, but he was not there. I did find his truck locked up. I called his cellphone and OW answered.. AHhhh i was so mad, I asked to talk to WH but she said he was asleep, beside her and started running her mouth about me... the nerve. Well i did lose my temper and proceed to her house. I was going to stomp the life out of her, but she called the cops on me and was going to have me arrested!. I told the cops i was not leaving until i talked to my WH. He was'nt even there, he was walking up the road. She lied to the cops about him being there and to me. I found out later, that she had called the cops on him 2 times that night. Finally WH's sister shows up and takes WH home with her. I was so upset about all this. But this is'nt the horrible thing that happened. Anyways, Last Fri. night WH calls me at 12a.m and asks if i can come up and let him buy me a drink. So ,,stupid me goes and while im there i find out some very interesting things about WH and OW's so-called relationship. I find out they have been fighting horribly almost to the point of physical, every night. I find out that OW calls the bar all the time looking for him, but he refuses to talk to her, the night i was there, she called 10 x's in 1 hour, and he refused all times to talk. Then she calles his cell phone several times, he dos'nt answer. Finally she shows up, I just want to drive her into next week, but really don't want to go to jail. So to make things worse, WH gets so intoxicated he passes out and im sitting there, and she's sitting there. The whole time slurring me about how bad i've been to him. I told the bartender, who happens to be a good freind of mine that i would respect her business and not kill OW there.. OW had the nerve to say she thought this situation was funny... grrrrrrrr. I said yeah, i guess it would be to you. I vowed to myself, i was not leaving that place while she was there. So finally about 5 a.m she gets up to leave and she leans down to kiss WH right in front of me.. I told her,, Oh no you don't ,, not in front of me, and i was prepared to knock her in the head with a poolstick, well she did'nt and she left. i stayed there until 7:30in the morning finding out stuff about thier relationship that its not so rosy anymore and they fight constantly. WEll, the next morning WH came home and asked me to please give him a hug..duhhhh,i did. it was the first bit of emotions i seen out of him since A started. He says he won't be going back to her house, he is'nt going to have anyone talk about his family like that. But i don't believe him. He said he wants to go away from everyone because he needs to be alone. I think he is over at OW's house. He may not be , i don't know. I have much more to do than follow him around. i talked to him briefly yesterday, i commented on him being shaved and he said, yeah, well i hav'nt been over there so don't start! Does this mean anything, or is it all a fog lie talk... I feel like im losing my mind. Could it be that he really does want to be alone to figure out stuff, or is it all a lie? I don't know how much of this i can take. Is it common for OW and WH to fight so much? He was such a good husband and daddy all these years, but i think i may be fighting a losing battle. Also, has anyone ever heard of a lawsuit filed against OW called alienation of affection? thanks for letting me vent. Don't be too mean to me, well i guess i do deserve a 2 X 4 or 7...... thanks
