My story is getting too long to recount. WH, FWH as of last week, been caught communicating to OP with email and phone contact. This is my forth dday in a little over there years. He was told by me that he can live here through son's end of school year, now just getting invisable treatment. Swears he just talks, does not see her, like it matters.
We are broke, but I am seeing my MC tomorrow for 2 hours, considering phone consult with Dr. H, and telling OP husband.
No one in family knows, protecting son now. I know he loves me, can't admit he has a problem. Known my H for 30 years. Could use some advise.
I know this is not alot of detail, really over the edge now.
He is acting like no big deal, after the last three years of talking, crying, etc. Little remorse. Any advise, particularly from oldtimers in long term affairs, would be greatly appreciated.
If I didn't believe he loved me I would be out of here. Could this be a plan B

Kutz

have you had enough abuse yet??? im gonna assume the answer is yes and respond accordingly........

tell op husband NOW!!!

tell family NOW!!!!

make your boundries undeniable....and enforce them!!!

and for god sakes what are you protecting son from.....learning to do whats right and wrong???? son will see his mom stand up for what marriage is and not let someone belittle that. he will see his mom respect herself and what family is....he will see his mom protecting him from evil fighting to get into their home. he will learn to be an honest, and rightous young man. do not be afraid to teach him this......and the biggest lesson of all.....when a problem hits, you dont run from it or hide. you stand up for what is right and do the hard stuff. you fight for what is right and you dont give up. and if your ws turns around you also teach him that people make mistakes...marriage isnt a fantasy and everyone has problems.....you teach him how to handle those things and become a man....

There is no "modified" Plan B. Just as there is no "modified" affair.

It either is or it isn't.

Susan