Hey all!
I finally just got back on the site.

I have missed you all and hope you are doing well.

I can't seem to bump up our thread.
If any of you can, please do.

I'm doing pretty well.
Nothing earth shattering to report.

Hope to hear from you all soon.

Karona

I think you have to cut and paste the old topic into a new thread. I'm not sure though. I mostly have just started from scratch.

Thanks Greengables!

I think of you, and hope you are doing well these days.

I sense from your posts that you are a strong person. But, I want you to know that I think of you.

Thanks again!
K.

Hello, GG is a very strong person. There are many strong people on these boards and I'm glad to have met them.
Life is good, and very busy these days.
I can't get the kids motivated in the morning with the time change, and I swear the kids had 2 hours of homework last night after their week off.
Take care all.
Remember to think and pray for our friend who is in court today for custody in Colorado. Hopefully we'll hear by the end of the day!

Hi Newly, thanks for checking in.

I hope Still is able to come back. I know I had a hard time.

I'm ashamed to say that I don't know who had the court date today, but I'm thinking of them and said a prayer just the same!

Glad to hear your doing well. How about the guy you had been going out with? Any news? I think about the two of you, and hope all is well with him.

My girls had the homework too! They just went back today. It's always fun to get back into the routine after a break!

Take care Newly,
K

Hello, still doing well with dating, and guy found out last night that what the doctor found is not cancer.
He went to a funeral yesterday, and is taking his cousin for chemo today. A very different person for me to date.
He's very set in his ways, but very considerate and has many, many friends.
I'm taking DD7 to a new counselor tonight, and I hope she can make her feel more comfortable in her life. The counselor said we need to get DD to stop blaming all in her life on the divorce. So this could be interesting.
Take care all.
The court date was for seekingjoy on EN. X hasn't seen kids in 3 years and his lawyer is pushing for custody. Duh! I still need to check in there.

Oh Newly, that is such great news.
I know you must be relieved and I'm sure this is such a burden lifted from him too.

I worry about getting set in my own ways myself.
My girls and I have our own litte life thing going on. I wonder what it will be like someday to fit someone(s)into it too. I guess I will cross that when it happens.

I think it speaks volumes that he has a lot of friends though. I think we all have our ways.

Good luck with the counseling. My oldest daughter spent a good 1 year in therapy. Her tumor and the affair all happened within a month of each other. It's so hard on these kids.
I hope this one will click for her. We went to 3 different ones. It is not so easy is it?

Ohh, I see on seekingjoy. How sad that is. I can't imagine there is a court date needed for that. How crazy the system is!!

Take care Newly!
K

Just checking in. First meeting with new counselor (said to call her a Happiness coach) went far better than expected. Said DD told her more than some children do in 4 sessions. And this is my quiet/non-talkative child. She's just ready to talk.

Then I called X to tell him about counselor, and got blasted for not telling him in advance. Counselor said to wait until we determined if there was a bond.
Then X continues to complain saying he can't take DD to counseling, but says she needs counseling and Occupational Therapy. Oh, so I'm supposed to take her to everything.

Then X told me I need to move closer to him! It's too far for him to travel to see the kids. (25 miles). So I listen to his rant, and hear that he won't take the kids when I have business trips. So I said "you'd rather leave them with a stranger than care for your own kids?" (His words in the past). Yes, because his mom can't drive the kids back and forth for him all the time. I guess she's finally getting tired of it.
I love being able to step back and see the dysfunction, and not have to live with it day in and day out.
I want to scream "Be a parent" "Take responsibility for your children" "Grow up - you are the adult" But I don't, because he'll always be a victim and blame everyone else for his problems.
It's nice not to walk on eggshells all the time.

I'm so glad the visit went so well. How old is she? I hope the best for her.

It is amazing the total different side we can see of these men now that we are apart from the life.
I thought my x was one of the wisest/smartest/well thought out people.
Now, geez, I can't imagine what I was thinking.
He can't make sense out of much of anything.

I know what you mean though. Wouldn't it be great to tell them to grow up, and be a parent. Do their share......

I think it will always be that way, and we have to accept it.

I was glad to read your update!
Your doing a great thing for you daughter.

K.