Friend of mine reading through Plan A looked at me and said "You're Cary Grant"

Of course! I'm Cary Grant in His Girl Friday when he works to keep Rossalyn Russell from running off to get married to Ralph Bellamy.

His plan A didn't kick in until after he discoverd she was off to get married, but it was pretty effective.

Has anyone else seen this movie?? Am I on target with the Plan A analogy?

I haven't seen His Girl Friday, but Grace Kelly sort of does it in Rear Window too.

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His Girl Friday is an old Black and white where Grant is the newspaper editor and Russell is his ex-wife and star reporter. It's a comedy. I was thinking Cary Grant does another pretty good job in Charade... unintentionally.

Grace Kelly is one of my favorites too. Her performance in Rear Window is another fine example.

It seems like the visuals are helpful.

SnS I've got His Girl Friday and few others and yes its close enough to be an analogy for Plan A as long as you dont think is a training fim!! LOL

Those things you mentioned re your WW with OM's T Shirt under pillow etc etc.... I'm sorry to say she is the fog still pretty deep no matter what you may think with her talks with you.
Delay any D procedings, go slow, seek to have your 8 yr old near you ..... all those things to make a separation difficult for her.
Now Plan A - Its also about putting a spoke in the affairs wheel too remember & to stop the affair - EA or PA.
Also her comments she has never been in love with you - rubbish.
She is babbling classic fog statements about having to have a life by herself blah blah etc,... its code for her to not have you arond so she can pick up the affair.... when you are there she has to face the fact she is WRONG.
SHe is also saying YOU make her feel trashy , NO NO NO SnS its her ACTIONS which make her feel trashy. If she tries that one again you should gently, but firmly refer her to her own behaviour - its not a LB to refuse to accept blame for her behaviour just dont attack her. Repeat over & over if she can get NC togther & be prepared to work then MC can work for the both of you.
Not too late just be more stubborn. Plug away a bit at a time.

Thanks AW.

I need the clarification on fog talk. I'm sure she wants the freedom to run to the young man. She wants me to stop bothering him certainly. She almost begged me to return his baseball hat he left at our house. She's still defending him.

Plan A describes what to do when the OP is still in contact, but doesn't give good guidance when OP is running to divorce court.

I'm trying to make the D difficult financially. She also doesn't want to tell our friends because they don't need to know, and won't see anything differently. I have a problem with that and will explain to all of our friends why I'm no longer wearing my wedding ring. The explanation will be that my wife found she was in love with another man and wanted to be free to be with him. I haven't told her I would do that yet, but it's going to come up. Steve Harley told me not to use the kids as wedge right now. "It's too obvious".

She likes to throw back at me that I lied when I secretly sent the OM home. I usually retort that "you lied when you said you had only kissed him.", but that's not a good response. Can you provide a better response? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" />

Part of the condition of our Son being with her is that he can never see or be exposed to the OM. She's still in the fog.