I know this isn't the normal topic, but I so need someone that maybe has or is going through what I am. H is doing the best that he can, but he still has both parents and both his grandparents and they are in their 80's.
I don't know my dad, both my grandparents died when I was very young and I just lost my mother. She wasn't ill, it was sudden and I'm just feeling lost. She would have been 52 on 4-15-05. She lived in Oregon and I in Texas. Last time I saw her was 2.5 years ago. She never got to meet in person her grandson, Cody, who will be 18 months on the 16th.
Been to two grief counseling sessions in the past week and...although I know what I'm feeling a possible reasons for it specific to me...doesn't make it any easier.

I lost her on 3-23-05 and we are just now this Saturday the 9th going to have a private service and spread her ashes along the Oregon coast. It was her wishes. This Friday I have to go through her personal effects and that will be hard. But I feel like I have no closure yet...and that's wearing on me.

To any listening ear...
Loving

Oh, Loving! I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine the grief you must be feeling. I wish I had something helpful to say. I can say that I'll pray for you, if that helps at all.

Lovingwife,

It hasn't been that recent since my mom died (six years) as yours. Her death was unexpected as well.

They say that one never gets over the death of their mother, expecially at such a young age as yours was. My mom was pretty young when she died too, 62.

I needed to feel close to her for several months after and what helped was I gathered photo's and had them all made into black & whites and copied 5 times then I made a scrapbook of my parents life together and gave one to each o f my siblings. It took awhile but I felt close to her and my dad while I was doing it, it really did help me to cope.

It takes about a year they say to really feel okay again after the death of somone like a parent. They say you have to go through all the seasons.

Feel your grief and find a way to feel close to her, keep her close to you in your heart, talk to her.

Those are the things that helped me the most.

I know how hard it is and how much it hurts. Maybe more for you because you did not see her for such a long time before her death. I would talk to her about that and about your son.

You are probably going to dream about her for a long time. In my dreams my parents were so real that I cried when I woke up and remembered they had died.

It's hard lovingwife but it gets easier with time to cope.

Dear Loving Wife In Texas,
Yes, I have experienced the loss of my mother in 2000. It has really changed my life. I have been severely depressed and unmotivated. My husband was out to sea when she passed away. I have 3 kids and live 14 hours away from my family. It was a very difficult time for me. I lost my best friend too. I talked to her almost everyday for years. No one can take the place of your mother. In fact, I lost my dad a year ago March 28, 2005. My parents were 70 and 76 respectfully. I am only 42 years old and have three brothers. We have no Aunts, Uncles, or Cousins. Both parents were only children. It is very difficult but we do go on and our parents would want us to, also. Counseling is a good idea. It took me 4 years to realize I was depressed and unhappy. Just a year ago, I started counseling after my dad had passed away. Hopefully, you will do better than I have done. Just take one day at a time. God Bless.
Lisa V.

Hi Loving Wife and others that have lost their Moms.

If you get a chance, you might want to read the thread on down a ways called: MB friends that have lost loved ones.

I want you each to take a few minutes and listen to this song.
I think it will really help you as you listen to the inspiring words.

CLICK BELOW:

"If you could see me now."

With love and caring, Julie <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Dear Blessed Time,
It was wonderful and I thank you for the time you put into finding and sending it in your post. I saw both post, but since I figured out how to send a post, I wanted to send one to the owner of the original. In fact, looked at your post first before I could find this one. Gob Bless.
Lisa V.