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I am fairly new here and am very confused. H having EA for last three years, OW left him in Sept stating he should go back to S. OW still in daily contact with H but says she feels guilty about being in contact but cannot stop, H upset when OW does not contact him. I feel that OW is controlling H. H states he is in love with OW but loves S. H says he cannot make a decision as to who he wants to be with even after all this time. Been with H for 32 years and not sure what to do now. Wait and see what happens or make something happen. H works in another state where OW is and that is how they can still meet without my knowledge.
Has anyone any advice or been through this where H cannot decide between two women.
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Joined: Mar 2005
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Wow, I guess I'm not alone? I have just found out about an EA that has lasted over 3yrs and became S before he left overseas about 5 months ago. I just found out she is there also in Iraq. So, he does see her often, but he says it was a "one time thing only" and now they are friend and does not want to pursue their S relationship. He's confused in wether he loves her or is it lust. An attraction he fell for before. He wants to change and says he's sorry for the hurt he has caused but still is confused. So, am i. How can you repair a marriage, thousands of miles away with the OW there by his side? I hope experienced MB'ers can answer our questions. Your not alone. Keep your head up!
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Hi, Tomas. Here is what Dr. Harley says about dealing with an unfaithful husband. I think this article really speaks to the issue you are addressing with your husband. All the best, Gimble
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect.
-An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
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I feel that H is obsessed with the OW and given time it will change but how long will that take and can we all last that long. H also says he is sorry for the hurt he has put me through but still cannot make up his mind what he wants. This is also taking a toll on his health.
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