Remember my saga? Well just an update to my sitch. MOW is back with her H, H apparently meeting EN’s. My xW is happily (?) engaged to her OM. Me? I’m sure I did the right thing in ending A (finally turned into me literally throwing her off of my property). The intensity of her addiction finally scared her into understanding why NC is critical. So everyone’s paired up and happy. Except me.

I’m saddened, though, that neither my xW or MOW could stand for their marriages. Both allowed their OM’s to dictate the outcome for them. Both times I do the right thing and find myself outside of a R. I know an A is wrong. Why couldn’t my xW get that in time to save our M? Nothing I’ve ever done has felt s good for me to do for very long. Now I wonder if I can even trust myself. I’m trying though to stay away from bad behaviors. I’ll not put another family what mine has gone through.

Good! The fog can get thick!! OMW Will feed, you'll bleed and neither of you will be happy with each other in the end. Being lonely sucks, but being second is worse. Wait and work for a R that honors you. It's hard (TRUST ME) but you'll thank yourself. Glad to see you're still trying to be the better man.

I think you're the healthiest one in the group. You recognized your problem and dealt with it. Sounds like a good first step. Pat yourself on the back for doing the right thing.

Now it's time to take care of yourself. Find a Hooters and let the pretty girls smile at you and serve you some Buffalo wings and a drink while you watch a baseball game.

I had a nice cute waitress at a sports bar smile at me and call me dear while I watched a basketball game.

There's nothing wrong with a pretty woman smiling at you. She doesn't need to know your problems.

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A simple, but effective tonic for the lonely BxS blues.

What is interesting is how familiar all of these stories are, The difference seems in what choices are made and the timing of each. You chose to slide into an A, but also chose not to live in the fog. What makes the difference, I wonder.

I dont't feel like a hero though. I feel weak, I knew what the consequences were--I'd lived them--yet I let myself be pulling in b/c what? I was lonely? Felt un worthy? I'm still lonely and still feel like a snake, albeit one with slow morals...

I notice that you don't get a lot of responses on your posts. i think that your circumstance makes folks uncomfortable b/c that means ANYONE van end up in your shoes. One bad choice. One vulerable moment.

Guess what, though? You're done with it, no? Stop beating yourself up over it. I know healing is hard sometimes, but don't make yourself out to be a villian here. What you do and will do must mean more than what you've done.

We BS's are a lonely bunch, and angry too. Don't give in. don't give up. And be glad that you were brave enough not to wreck another's home.