Seeing that this board has been more trouble then anything, I have noticed a lot of people are not back on yet....Tigger just helped me out this morning. So I thought I would have a post for those on here to give updates on how they were doing since the ending of old board.
Things with me are going pretty good. I'm 32 weeks TODAY!!! I've anxious but scared to death about going into labor. Any mom's feel like giving me "Its OK going into labor" advice would be greatly appreciated. I work with infants and some of the moms were telling me about their labor stories and I just looked at them in horror. I know what happens but I guess I don't like the idea of NOT knowing when it will happen and HOW intense the pain will be....*scared* lol...maybe I'm just a big baby myself!!! We live 45 mins from my hospital so I think that plays a major role in my feelings of being a little uneasy. Plus my H, who is in the navy, works midshifts, which his hours are 9:30 at night till 5:30 in the morning. He is only 15 mins away but if something happens in the middle of night, I have to wait for him to get home!!!
As for OC, he has been on vacation for 2 weeks but we got him this week. Same old stuff happening with OW. She is ridicilous but what else is new? He is 12 weeks and she has started giving him juice without talking with his doctor. I have a mom who is a OBGYN nurse who says juice should not be introduced so early because of their systems still being weak. *sigh* can't win! Oc starts daycare next week so we will only have him when H asks for him. Maybe this will be helpful for me in a way?!?!?
My H has been an angel since my doctor told me to be careful with my right leg. He has been doing laundry, bringing home breakfast when he gets off, picking up and all kinds of stuff...I asked him if he got hit with the nice stick last week because I was so proud of him!!!
So enough of my rambling......how is everyone else?

Hi Hurt! I'm so glad to see you're back. I was just thinking about you the other day. I am glad that things are going well for you. What made OW decide to put OC in daycare?

I am also nervous about when the time comes to go into labor. I live about an hour from my hospital. Since H and I are seperated I'm just not sure how that will be when the time comes. I do have my brother next door, but he's a single guy and I really can't count on him to be home.

H is living very close so if he's home, and I can get a hold of him that should work. I do have friends I can call if it's an emergency. I guess I'll just cross that bridge when I get to it. There are still times H is around my house, but I just never know.

So, as for my update, H and I still plan to divorce when the baby is born. OW is still w/ her boyfriend, but H sees her often. Not sure of the nature of their relationship at the moment, and I try hard not to ask. He is still doing a lot of work around here and helping out any way that he can, financially and physically. It is the absolute weirdest situation. We are trying to remain friends for the sake of the baby. So far it seems to be working, not that we don't argue at times.

Hi all,

Well things are moving along here. Baby due any day, had first meeting w/lawyer. Doesn't look good as H is self-employed and the sole provider for our family (not for long), so our entire household income will be calculated into CS. It really bothers me that our 3 children's health care and medical expenses will not be taken into consideration. H pretty much gets the raw deal on this I guess. I think the lawyer did mention "rights" and "responsibilities", but not sure what those "rights" are. The lawyer basically told us that she can pretty much pick up and move out of state and that the first two years of baby's life we will be dependent on her sharing the child with us. Pretty much sounds like she'll drain us, I mean his business can't afford to pay us what it pays us now, he's been on the brink of filing for bankruptcy for years and basically she can take the money and run. Nice, whatever. Hope you hear my sarcasm. So, I'll be getting a job in the fall when the kids go back to school, then my youngest will be 3 and the other two will both be in elementary school. I'll probably just work part-time though as I'm going to nursing school also. We'll probably refinance our house and get some high-deductible health insurance (private health ins ain't cheap) and cut back a little. I guess I'm just disappointed that the court dismisses my children like they don't matter, just because I didn't D my H. whatever.

H and I are doing better all the time. Basically things between us are better than ever, even with the occasional rifts about A. I imagine that things will be getting tougher here emotionally after baby comes for me. They obviously will financially. So, now it's just a waiting game. Hope everybody is doing well, look forward to seeing more updates (happy ones I hope).

It's so good to hear from everyone. As for wh and and my self things aren't going so well. We aren't arguing or anything but I just feel really drained I've been feeling since D-day I've been putting more effort into recovery than he is and I'm kind of tired of it. I find myself distancing from him in various ways. I'm not sure if I'm trying to detach myself before I decide to leave or what. The funny thing is w/ oc things are improving. We are finally getting the whole CS issue taken care of through DSS. I guess the trust just isn't here and after all the lies and deception, at least four years worth, mind you we'll be married for 5 in July, I'm just not sure I want to invest into this marriage any more. I just want to be in a loveing, committed relationship with someone I can trust and at the moment I don't even care if it's wh or not. On a better note I started school again and I'm taking two courses. I also started volunteering for two organizations. Well that's the update for me. Hope to hear from more of you soon.