[color:"mediumblue"][b]Hello Friends.
I have felt led to start this thread for several weeks.
So today I am going to do it!

Many of us have lost loved ones (through death] and many more of us will in 2005.

Life brings us sorrow as well as joy.
Losing loved ones affects our marriages also. [/color]


AFTERWARD

After the worse has happened
With nothing more to fear
The sun continues shining
With undiminished cheer

And birds continue singing
And skies continue clear
As hearts continue bearing
The things they cannot bear.


[color:"mediumblue"] I don't know if you have ever heard this song, but my main reason for starting this thread is for you to listen to this INSPIRING song.

It made me cry remembering all my loved ones
that are on the other side.
It takes a little while before the actual song begins.
It has eautiful lyrics.
I KNOW YOU WILL BE BLESSED.

CLICK BELOW:
If You Could See Me Now

Please share here at MB about your losses; your message may help others.

Our young son-in-law (a wonderful loving husband and daddy) was killed last summer in a car accident leaving our daughter with three precious little girls to raise without their beloved daddy.

Love, Julie [/color] <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Thank you for taking the time to start this thread, Julie.

I lost my Mom, my best friend, my life's greatest cheerleader, last July. (2004)

The song made me cry also. I hope it really is that way; that they are happy and walking streets of gold.

Thanks again, Laura

Yes, thank you.

I lost my younger brother (33 yrs old) in an avalanche this January. He leaves behind two children (Boy 4yrs, Girl 4 months) and his passing is a complete and total tragedy.

J

[color:"mediumblue"]DEAR Dewt.
I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your young 33 year old brother.

What a tragedy.
Does his wife and your niece and nephew live close to you?

When my son-in-law died last summer, their youngest little baby girl was only 2 months old. She turned one yesterday. We went to her birthday party.
A happy/sad day; he would have LOVED to have been there.
Such a GREAT daddy with his girls.

I can still remember the day she was born and her daddy coming to the waiting room to tell us if it was a boy or girl.

There was a stranger in the room that said: "I bet you wanted a son"...Jeff said: "I couldn't be more pleased to have another daughter." (third daughter)

Yep, life is difficult. I guess we need some sorrow to appreciate the joy...we need rain to see the rainbow.

Dewt, this little motto has helped me so much during my life's many trials.

"Sometimes there is just nothing you can do but go on with your life the best you can."
(Even sometimes without our loved ones; sometimes through death and sometimes through divorce.)

Thanks for sharing with us, I hope it relieves a little pain to have told us about this tragedy. I cried when I read it.
I FEEL your sorrow...I know you loved your brother.

Sincerely, Julie [/color] <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

He lived in the back country out in BC. I'm on the other side of the country. I'm so very torn up about this... I'd move in a second except I have a 13yr old who lives with his Mom, here in MTL. I just don't know what to do. sigh.

Today has been an extremely tough Greggy day.

Y'know how sometimes you get a song in your head and it just won't stop repeating?

And y'know that song, 'He ain't heavy... he's mah bru-thuuuur...." by uh... The Hollies... well, that song has always made me cry. He and I were so close and I missed him so much even before he died...

Well, today, that song was in my head just about all day. My 9yr okd son was home sick today and we talked about grief. He wiped my tears away and hugged me up pretty good.

And then I was thinking about this thread. And about something OP said to me when this was all starting. "I can't steal her away from you. You lost her a long time ago."

It's been a year now, and my WW still does not really want to make this work. Facing that loss is in many ways worse... because I know there's still a connection but I despair that I've actually lost her. I try not to think about this too much because it makes my chest feel like it's going to physically split right open.

Thank you for your kind thoughts. That saying, 'Sometimes there is just nothing you can do but go on with your life the best you can,' pretty much sums everything for me. Most of the time I'm just going on because there's simply nothing else to do. I don't have any hope and I can't see a happy ending in any direction. I'm actually afraid of the light at the end of the tunnel because experience has taught me that it's going to be a freight train.

Phew... that was just a bit of a vent there...

I'm thankful to God at least that there's a part of me still willing to make the right decisions despite my hopelessness. I been to the doctor and started ADs, started counselling and with spring coming work should pick up quite a bit. We got counselling going for our son and Dylan made her first appointment today.

Talk about hijacking... sorry bout that. Just been a bad day.

dewt

[color:"navy"]To all of you that have lost loved ones (either through death or seperation)
I wanted to post the words to this song.

I am sure it is exactly how you feel.

It was sang at my Daughter's young Husband's funeral.
(He was killed instantly, leaving behind his wife and 3 little girls.)

Love, Julie

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[b]One More Day


Last night I had a crazy dream
a wish was granted just for me
it could be for anything
I didn't ask for money
or a mansion in Malibu
I simply wished for one more day with you!

One more day, one more time
one more sunset, maybe I'd be satisfied
but then again, I know what it would do
Leave me wishing still for one more day with you
one more day...........

First thing I'd do is pray for time to crawl
I'd unplug the telephone and keep the t.v off
I'd hold you every second
say a million I love you's
that's what I'd do with one more day with you

One more day, one more time
one more sunset maybe I'd be satisfied
but then again I know what it would do
leave me wishing still for one more day with you

one more day, one more time
one more sunset maybe I'd be satisfied
but then again I know what it would do
leave me wishing still for one more day
leave me wishing still for one more day
leave me wishing still for one more day with you.