Is it normal for a WW to put all the blame on you for the A and the failure of the marriage?

Is it normal for a WW to revert back to the fog state just when you thought she was coming out of it?

Is it normal for a WW to believe you have no business in her extracurricular activities but feel she should be able to know everything you do in your off time?

How about the WW making accusations that do not make any sense or that never happened?

Just some questions that I am asking myself because I'm going through them. I'm trying to keep it together and if I know what to expect no matter how crazy it is it helps me react better.

Thanks

BMS -

I am afraid the answer is no. Those things are not normal.

Normal people own their own mistakes.

Normal people try to right their wrongs.

Normal people do not shift blame by bringing up others faults.

Sadly, for a WS, those things ARE quite COMMON.

You're in good company, stick with the board and we'll help you get through this.

NCWalker

Is it normal for a WW to put all the blame on you for the A and the failure of the marriage?

[color:"red"]Oh yeah [/color]

Is it normal for a WW to revert back to the fog state just when you thought she was coming out of it?

[color:"red"]Oh yeah [/color]

Is it normal for a WW to believe you have no business in her extracurricular activities but feel she should be able to know everything you do in your off time?

[color:"red"]Oh yeah. She doesn't want you to know what she is doing because she needs to cover that. But she needs to know what you are doing so she can make sure where you are and that you want "catch" her. Be careful, it may not be over. [/color]

How about the WW making accusations that do not make any sense or that never happened?

[color:"red"]Oh yeah...part of the fog. [/color]

Just some questions that I am asking myself because I'm going through them. I'm trying to keep it together and if I know what to expect no matter how crazy it is it helps me react better.

[color:"red"] Good luck!

Susan [/color] <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

All of those are standard operating procedure for a fogged out WS! We see it all here everyday.

Yes. That sounds like stuff I've heard from my WW.

She's going to feel trapped soon. It's not your business what she does.

She will tell you she was never in love with you.

She won't like the person you've become. You've changed.

She'll ask are you OK? She'll want you to understand she's in love with the OP.

Just a few more to expect. They're still fresh in my mind. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Hey, those are my WH's lines! And I thought I was special! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" />

BobbyMilkShake, sounds like your WW is following the same script as all the other aliens. Sorry it's happening to you too.

You may want to check out this link for some common alien utterances:
Alien Utterances

Ohhh, You are so not alone.

I've only known about A for a week and a half and I ALREADY heard every one of those lines from WSO and and he says them while denying that he is having A at all!

Currently #1 on my Alien utterance list:
"Everyone knows how great you are with kids; I'm just not sure you'd be a good mother if we had a baby."

If it wasn't so absurd it wouldn't make me laugh when it hurts so...

Do you find yourself thinking it's all so bizarre when WS is spewing this stuff? I look at mine and think Who are you? Are you a pod person? Where is my honey and Why are your ears so red?

Sally

Bobby?

Still there?

.... chirp ..... chirp ..... chirp .......

People do care. This is no bull. We care because we have been there and you have value. May not seem like it, but you do.

Talk to us brother, we may smack you now and again, but we won't judge and we'll be honest.

NCW