[color:"#666666"] Ok last night I go on a second date with this guy. We spent the day sending back and forth emails with a racy but indirect subjects - was funny adult humor but not gross. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Now would you say it was out of line for the guy to ogle me all night? We played pool and every time I bent over he was either staring down my top or backside. He made some very specific comments about my cup size, and then later said that he really had been looking at my face more than anything and made several specific compliments about I had nice lips. (he said that no other woman he had dated before had anything larger than flat and I looked to be a "C", and that previously his women were a size "4" - I was not about to admit that I was a size "8" but I was confused why all his comparisons are of a physical nature) <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />

In front of him I tried to laugh it off and the guy is very respectful in that he doesn't physically try to move in, but I was uncomfortable and the more I think about it the more I suspect he doesn't have good boundaries. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />

What do you all think?

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Sounds like your emails "of an adult nature" opened a door that should have remained shut....at least until you had a few more dates...Even if they were just a joking manner - he may have taken your response different than you intended.

Was he wrong to "ogle" you all nite?? Depends,,if you didnt' set any boundaries - why should he stop. If on the 2nd date a man talked specifically about my "cup size" - I'd set him straight right away..If you have been the BS - you've had enough disrespect in your life - you need to set those boundaries in how you want to be treated.....

Not knowing what that adult humor is, but I agree with IT HURTS. I know from experience how the privacy of a computer can push boundaries, that you wouldn't normally push in public.

If there were any suggestive tones (heck depending on the subject, if you were talking about it, it could have been suggestive) he may have been exploring trying to see how "open" you were. Might want to take a moment and look back over those e-mails.

datign woes... have I got dating woes.. or I should say one woe.. Satruday night I have a blind date for dinner, it went well no bells whistles or fireworks.. Monday he calls and tells me he's been arrested:
Me: your kidding! why?
him: for violating my WW restraining order againest me.
ME: what!
Him: have you got any advice
ME: call your attroney and lose my number

so thats how my first date in 27 years ended..this weekend Iam staying in bed with the covers over my head...

I agree with the others....it sounds like those emails gave him a different idea. Remember, with email and IM correspondence it is difficult to gauge the other person, based on the fact you might be typing things you wouldn’t say to their face at that point, and you aren’t able to see body language or hear voice inflections. How about this test - would you reprint any of those emails with the “racy adult humor” here for some of us to read? If not, then they are probably what got him thinking (and saying) thoughts that were “out of line”.

Your suspicion that he doesn’t have good boundaries is right. But you’ve participated in setting the tone for the relationship that he thinks it is. You might have to backtrack some if you want to continue seeing him.