I didn't answer. She didn't leave a messaage. Plan B is about dark right?

Yep, Hopeful.

STAY DARK!

Sounds like she's breaking though.

Dark until she meets your conditions. She should know what th conditions are from your letter.

Later, tomorrow.....

She knows the conditions. I think she wants money. Maybe lover boy has let her down although he has plenty of money. I will stay dark. Thanks MiMi.

Right on!

If she is anything like mine was, she will call a few more times without leaving a message and then she will leave a message. A few days at the most.

But you, you stay dark! And when she leaves the message, you don't call her back.

Hopeful -

Stay very dark. That is where I made mistakes. Everytime WH contacted me, I talked to him. This allowed him to fence sit long enough to feel comfortable in his new relationship.

It is critical to let her experience the consequences of her choices. Don't try to shield her.

Folks they say the opposite of love is not hate but indifference. Plan B is supposed to save what love you have for the other person but I am feeling indiiferent now. I am healing ever so slowly. I don't talk to her anymore because I don't need the pain. I suspect there will be a rush to get back with me for no other reason than financial support. I am worth more than financial support. I will stay dark. My Love Bank is draining.

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And if you do still feel indifferent it will be up to her to win you back.

And if it is for financial reasons then you will know when she is unable to win your love back, because true love never fails. Sincerety is not easy to fake.

Weaver your right true love never fails but also true love never cheats on your spouse. You stand up amd address the problems. You don't go outside the relationship to solve internal problems. She has cheated 3 times while we were married. Why should I ever trust her again? I can forgive but I will never forget the pain, devastation that she caused this family. I bet you can tell i'm angry. I will stay dark.

Hopeful - You will get over the anger. That is the point I'm at. I haven't talked to WH in several months. I have no desire to hear any more fog - it is pointless to me now.

Hang in there, happy days are ahead.

That's what I meant, the ball is in your court now.

It is up to her to try and win your love back, and if she is insincere she will not be able to do that.

Such is the beauty of Plan B. It kind of clears all the smoke. And you no longer operate from victim mode.

You can make decisions based on rationality.

HINC,

That is another beauty of plan B. If she does not come out of her A, then when it is time to file for divorce YOU will be ready. You will have shed a lot of the baggage. You will be able to make decisions based on how things are vs. how you feel they are.

You have reason to be angry, but ultimately the anger will not help you. Examine what is driving your anger: fear, pain, frustration, etc. Then figure out what you expect to accomplish with your anger. I think you will find the correct things to do.

HINC, it may come to pass that this does not work out. OR she may decide that there is love in her heart for you and be willing to work on the marriage. Remember she has been denying anything good about the marriage for roughly 5-6 years to justify her A. So it will take her awhile to see reality, and not justifications.

In the end you may end up with a woman on your hands that truely does value and love you, and this knowledge will come from her introspection of her actions, motives, thoughts. You just never know.

So hang in there.

God Bless,

JL