My Husband has not been home very long. He has cheated on me more than once and also struggles with a drug addiciton. I noticed today that he has a very, very small brownish mark on his neck . It looks like it could be a small hickey, but then again maybe it is not. I asked him about it. He said he did not think he had a mark onhis neck. He tried to wipe it off like it was dirt. It did not come off. He said probably from work when he was moving heavy stuff around in the warehose. Based on our past and recent past we do not have much trust, but besides being at work and the few hours he leaves for Bible Study/counseling he has been spending all of his time with us. I do not think he has enough time to be cheating, but this is driving me crazy. I can not stop thinking about it. How can I stop thinking about it or should I even try to stop thinking about it. Besides this I do not see any signs that he might be cheating and when he cheats with enough time there are always huge signs. I feel like I am being paranoid and at the same time I do not want to sit by and be made a fool of. Ugh!!!!!!!!!!

Thnkas,
Stormy

Hmm. In the midst of all of our problems my H came over with a hickey. He tried to tell me the seatbelt of his truck caused it. Not. Trust your instincts, i was always told i was crazy or paranoid but 99% of the time i was right.

Got to agree here. This "mark" is screaming...."look here, look here". You can probably find a million ways to rationalize it, but you are the one who will just be delaying your pain.

This sucks, I know.

PLease empower yourself here.

LM

You would be amazed at how little time it takes.

Susan <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

I don't know your story but I have thought also that there is no way he could be still cheating!! When would he have time? He's been calling me several times per day, cell records are clean, he accounts for his whereabout, even where he eats lunch every day and with whom!! ( And so on.)

Surprise!! I was so wrong, so many times. Even having SF every single day, (often times twice!) and thinking there could be no time in there for him to squeeze in SF with OW - again wrong. He would have me in the morning, her in the afternoon and then me again in the evening!!
I realized that every moment away from me was an opportunity for him to either call her or see her.

I am not trying to say your WH does have a hickey but I just want you to be aware that what Susan said is true - you would be amazed at how little time it takes!!

I feel so sick inside and my head hurts . Where do I go from here?

Also his OW moved back to her hometown of Ulvalde, Texas. We live in Bryan, Texas. They are more than 4 hours a way from each other. I have proof/conformation that she moved back there and is still there. We have not been apart long enough for him to go down to visit her and drive back here. So, if it is a hickey (I am still struggling with denial, & holding on to the tiny chance that it is not a hickey) does that mean there is another OW?????? Every sick , horrible, thought is running through my head. All of this is sooooooo dreadful.