Hi guys,

I herd a disturbing "sound byte" this AM. Counselors are saying that those seeking help in their marriages are about "six years too late" in doing so. If I have the statistic correctly 36% of those who do get counseling end in divorce.

Perhaps this a stupid statement but if that is true most of us here are about six years too late. As I review Mrs H and my situation I don't know that the statistic applies but I know there were steps we could have taken together that would have prevented the A. But I guess it was "too much work". Why is there never enough time to do a job right the first time but there is always plenty of time to do it over."( from a sign I read at an auto parts store)

It is much easier to give up than to try and move forward, I remember opening a new checking account because I couldn't baleance the previous one...but I didn't take an accounting class I just started over. But now Mrs H looks over my shoulder when I try to add and subtract(sigh).

We want the quick fix is there "gastric bypass" or lypo suction for marriages? We want the wrinkles out but we try to do it with a cold iron.

I keep saying I have no answers here. I am as guilty if not more guilty than all of you. Could it be that we stepped into our marriages without a plan and a purpose?(time for a comercial). Could it be that Rick Warren is right and we need a Purpose Driven Life? (where was he when I was 22? Heck where was I?).
H

Hiker,

it's "NEVER" too late!!!!


It's just important to know:
[color:"red"]Never make the same mistake "twice" as the variety of errors are great! [/color]

Does that make sence?? I translated that so I hope you understand.

take care
bb

BB

Of course it makes sense. I am just trying to say that in many cases we became complacent and satisfied with the "status quo". We recognized that our marriages could be better but didn't take the steps we needed to make the needed improvements. No one was at fault...we stopped courting the day we got married because we no longer needed to...we had won our prize. Instead of continuing and becomeing a "married professional" we were satisfied to remain an amateur. All the books,advice,meeting with the pastor, IC and MFC seem to come when the situation became "desperate".
H

hiker,

all of what you say is basically true.

now how again does that have anything to do with what you could accomplish now???

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Never too late

FL

What it has to do with now is that we need to understand that our recovery is not going to be immediate and it will be a painful process. If the "statistics" mean any thing it is that the job is going to daunting but we need to hold on in those moments of greatest discouragement.
H