Hi everyone, I found out about my husbands affair 8 months ago, During that time things were on and off again to the point that I packed up me and my son and moved back to my home state 6 hrs. away. My two teenage daughters stayed here with my husband. 1 month passed and I was missing my daughters so much that I packed up and came back...but before I even got here my husband packed his stuff and moved in with the other woman. 2 days after I got back he was here with me(if you know what I mean) I told him that if he thought that he was going to come over here any time he wanted sleep with me and then go back to her he was crazy. He got very angry and told me fine...I will make the house payment but the minute you start sleeping with someone else they better make the house payment. I told him he could either get his stuff come home and work on his 18 yr. marriage and family or he could stay where he was at. Needless to say he got even madder and is still with her.
So I filed for a divorce and it looks to be over...Any thoughts on all of this? is all lost? if not what do I do? Thanks for any input!

Sweets
Have not read any of your past posts but from what you have said in this thread and your filing for divorce it is up to you whether it is over. If you are willing to continue then ultimatums must be given and adhered to. He must break off all contact with OW, live alone if necessary while you two work on rebuilding your marriage. With her in the picture you have little chance of recovering. With her there and no commitment on his part, every time you two would hit a bump he would run back to her. If he thinks the house payment is all he will have to make if the divorce is finalized he will be in for a surprise. New socks and underwear will become special occasions to him after the child support is determined. Lets see how long the OW puts up with that!

SM

Thanks for your input...I have little going for me right now...I lost my job because of all this and now am trying to apply for assistance until I can find one...keep running into stumbling blocks and now I have shutoffs for my utilities and what little money that I did have for food and whatever else is now being spent on that. I also had to dish out the money to start the divorce... 400.00. While he runs around having a good time I am looking like the bad parent to my children...he picks them up and takes them places that he just never had time for before and they blame me for his leaving. Just seems like there is no end in sight to the different things that I have to deal with because of this. And he scrams at me saying that I am trying to make him look like the bad guy. Does it get any better oh and to boot he tells his mother that he still doesn't know what he wants. That is such a joke! I have been listening to that for 8 months. Also while I was away I asked him for the marriage cert a few times so I could file and he wouldn't give it to me sent me a copy which I coould do nothing with. He says that I just keep pushing him to do things he doesn't want to do. But what am I supposed to do? just sit here with my thumb up my [censored] and take it? Love him...yes...doormat...no. I have tried everything I know how to do.