doofus, the idgit x, thinks I am a terribly flawed person. He can see no fault in himself but millions and millions of faults in me. He has no clue................................

Anyway, last month, I told him our son had a science fair project to do and I recommended that he do the project with the 12-y-o son. He's an engineer, I'm an artsy person so this seemed logical to me. Besides, it would give them some bonding time.

Project was assigned about the time our d went into the hospital for a week. So, life was admittedly turned upside down.

Anyway, today was the day to turn in the projects. When I took the project in, the teacher asked about his display board and paper. I looked at her incredulous. I had no idea what she was talking about. I told her the x had handled the project and I knew nothing about it. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />

Called x when I got to my office. He hadn't read the guidelines and requirements. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> Both children and I are going out of town and have been planning this since last fall or maybe earlier than that. We leave this afternoon and get home Sunday night.

Guess who was going to take half a day off from work so HE could finish the science project. I offered to leave son behind but x didn't want him to lose credit for turning it in late so HE is going to finish the project.

I have really mixed feelings about this.

But, I am NOT the only flawed person!!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> Now I have proof!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

So, are we / were we married to the same man? He's a bigamist too????? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

And I got stuck typing up the report for the science project. Because he screwed up. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

Anyway, the best score you could get in several different categories was a 4. In about 8 categories. And in 6 of them, the report which I typed based on the information I was provided by mr. ain't-never-gonna-be-perfect was a 4. I got, I mean our son got, 3s in 2 other categories because there really was no research or data to report.

After all, you can't make a silk purse out of a sow's ear. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

Today, I took daughter to psychiatrist. She brought up something that surprised me. She said that she and Dr. Gilbert had considered the fact that she might have mild ADD. Her brother has been diagnosed with ADHD. I have been diagnosed with ADD. And it is reasonable to consider that she might have it. Not severely - but enough for it to get in the way of her focusing in class.

I know Mr. Controler will have a fit when he finds out the dr wrote her a prescription for Concerta. But, it was a decision made by dr. Not me. I kept quiet while they discussed it. This dr has seen x's fit. And I expressed my concern about his anger when he heard the news. The dr said to tell him, 'It was the dr's decision." I like that plan!

Well, he didn't have a fit when I emailed him. And he didn't have a fit when I gave him the medication for the weekend.

But he harped on d terribly about her grades - which are up though they aren't all good, YET!

However, when you've just been in the psychiatric hospital a couple of months earlier and the grades are up, people need to be off your case. Up has to come before good. Sometimes. If you've been doing poorly, you have to improve before you can reach your maximum potential, right?

So, he's also harping at d about her medication. She has told me that she resents the fact he can't acknowledge that things are BETTER. I can see that.

Remember, you don't have improvement, usually, without effort. And I am seeing more effort so I know that, in time, we'll see the improvement. She tells me she is feeling better. She has a better disposition. She's easier to be with. She isn't giving me the 'go take a hike' look as often. So I'm seeing what I think is appropriate.

Last night she told me that, if he continues the way he has been acting, I don't have to worry about her going to live with her dad.


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My favorite passage from poetru:

Oh, would some power the Giver give us
To see ourselves as others see us.
What airs in gate in dress would leave us
And e/en devotion.

Both d's psychiatrist and s's psychiatrist have helped me feel better about where I am and how I am doing as a mother. D's is willing to take the responsibility for the decision on her meds and s's told me that they can see through things that people do and realize that the fits people pitch about others are often indicative of their own issues.

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YEAH!!

I was thinking the same thing about your D--she will quickly change her mind about going to live with her dad if he continues that path!!

Cinderella,

You seem to be gloating that Mr Perfect isn't. Is this some sort of competition between you and your ex-husband.

I believe you are a Christian woman, right?

If so, why not pray that your ex-husband become a father described in scripture instead of gloating over his failures.

These are your children, don't they deserve the best father possible?

phred

I am sorry to be coming off this way.....ahhh....ANYWAY,

THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS MR. PERFECT MR, RIGHT. MR. WONDERFUL....yadda yadda yadda! I am beginning to think that that one author (not sure if it is defending the cavemen)is correct saying men are just here to breed their sperm. Keep life moving. I am sorry! But in past experiences I am begining to believe that.

Watch Oprah today. The show called me back wanting my stbex on there. This time the cheaters side of the story. He declined! Hummmm

Sorry if this has nothing to do with your topic. As you can see I am a little bitter!

Thanx girl for the hug and the encouragment on the Kingdoms thread. I really needed that. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Ali~

phred, been there - done that - own that t-shirt. Sometimes I do pray for him. But, after God only knows how many years of being verbally and abused and emotionally neglected by someone who treats you that way, leaves you for fantasies of another woman, spanks the monkey rather than having sex with his loving wife, says he has to leave to see if maybe he can be happy and that it bothers him to do this to his 2 and 4 years old but that's just too bad, and thinks he is ok with God, won't stay for his children's activities because he has to go to church to be the good christian he thinks he is - after 10 years of his absence from our home, after having him launch and admit slander campaigns against me, after being insulted and ignored in front of our adolesent children, after being talked down to in and insulted while our suicidal daughter was in the psychiatric hospital.....I guess I'm tired of praying for him. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

Ali, geez, don't you sometimes wonder what you did to deserve some of this stuff....? Sometimes, I feel like the opposite of Maria in The Sound Of Music. Anyway, you deserve hugs - but not to be treated like a doormat.

Have some more! ((((((ALI)))))) <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />