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a married guy G, 34 with kids, is having a secret affair with my daughter D,18. G has never come to our house.they meet at motels etc. this has been going on for a few months now. i dont see this relationship going anywhere for my D as he has no intention of leaving his wife. i have tried to explain this ad nausea to D, but nowadays our conversations almost always degenerate to argumenting and curses and we only interact (D & me) cause i make breakfast for her in the morning/take care of washing her clothes etc. i am at loss at what to do. thanks for help
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Exposure, that will put the brakes on this. I would calmly explain to your D that this is hurting this guys wife and give her a choice. Who does she want to tell this guys wife about the affair.
Her choices are:
1. The husband
2. Her daughter
3. You
Of course, you inform her that you will be following up, so she can't just come back and say that she has been told.
You can't control her, but you can say what you will and will not do. You can give her an idea of what you will do if the affair continues, and let it go from there.
I do believe that this guys wife needs to know. You can make sure this happens.
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I think that summed it up pretty well...
Her behavior is unnacceptable to you, cruel to the wife and it needs exposed.
I would add that she will need to find a place to live if she doesn't end it.
Just me 2 cents...
"Who are you" said the Caterpillar
This was not an encouraging opening for a conversation.
Alice replied, rather shyly, "I--I hardly know, sir, just at present...At least I know who I WAS when I got up this morning, but I think I must have been changed several times since then."
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