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HI Again
It has been a year since my last post. We have been togther for 20 years,and married for 16. We have two teen agers,and my wife has been cheating off ,and on for most of it.
We moved to a better town,and nice neighbors,and started working together,but she flirted with 2 guys at work,but both are gone. She had a cell phone on her cart 2 months ago,but said it was the night shifts,and return it to the office. It showed up again a few days ago at home.
I checked the phone list,and she was disguising guys names with girls. She agreed to get rid of it. We gave it to my 14 year old son,but she was acting suspicious at work yesterday in the last few minutes,and I found out another guy she flirts with picked her up another cell phone.
My kids are disgusted with their mother,and we have to quit the jobs,cause I am embarresed. She uses it for romantic text messeges. We go out,and she even sends them in the bathroom. What should I do?
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mistersteve...
what do YOU WANT to do??
ARK
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After reading all your previous posts about your wife's constant state of in your face infidelity....why do you stay married??
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Dude,
Do you REALLY believe it is just on the cell phone and that she is just a "text message pervert"?
May want to look deeper.
k
EDITED TO READ: "another guy she flirts with picked her up another cell phone." DEFINE "FLIRTING"
Last edited by krusht; 04/23/05 04:02 PM.
CORDUROY PILLOWS ARE MAKING HEADLINES!!
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I WANT TO STAY IN THE MARRIAGE,CAUSE SHE IS MY BEST FRIEND,WIFE ,AND EVERYTHING IN MY LIFE.
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[color:"blue"] [/color] My ww use to use pay phone,then computer. Now it is so easy for her to send romantic,or sexual text messeges to lots of men. She loves all the attention. What I mean by her flirting is sneaking,behind my back with guys who when we walk by,she doesnt even say hi with me their,but when I work on the other side,she talks laughs,and lets them put their hands on her. After a month of this,then she goes to meet them.
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Are you willing to use Plan B so assert your own refusal to live with such chaos...
do you want the marraige you have
or a different one..
and Steve know that I am not asking you defesively though you may think I am...I am trying to figure out what work you are willing to do to try to change things...
but if your only goal is to have this woman in your life no matter the cost
no matter the disrespect then marriage BUILDING can't help
you need strong firm boundaries with plans of actions when crossed
you need to clear in your words and actions what is tolerable in YOUR life...
did you read bobpures post from yesterday about a BS that went belly up....anything to have his spouse...
ARK^^
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I WANT TO STAY IN THE MARRIAGE,CAUSE SHE IS MY BEST FRIEND,WIFE ,AND EVERYTHING IN MY LIFE. Please take a moment ... and define "best friend" what makes someone your best friend? what sorts of behaviors, traits and considerations makes someone eligible for "best friend" status ? Do you require that a best friend not purposely hurt you? Pep
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