So I am now 34 weeks and 2 days along in my pregnancy. I have had some problems and spent last weekend in the hospital due to severe hypertension. I have an appt this week to find out whether I go on full bedrest or part time so I can calm down before he gets here. The doctor told me that they could take him c section at anytime if my BP gets high enough. Anyways, with that said, a few days ago, my H brought up the topic of S E X! He told me that lately I haven't been as sexy and it bothers him(said it nicely, not meanly or resulting in a fight) Well, being 8 and half months pregnant, I'm exhausted BUT I want to hear any advice those moms might have. I do know men have needs but I work ten hour days and come home cook dinner and do the dishes and by that time, I can BARELY stand up or I want to fall right asleep! It isnt' like I'm trying to ignore him or put that off, I'm just beyond tired. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> ANY ADVICE or suggestions? Plus my doctor told me that if my cervix is soft that there is no sex allowed till I have the baby?!?!? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />

Hi! I went on bedrest at 35 weeks with my first child for high blood pressure. I have to admit it wasn't so much fun. But it was the best thing for my health and my unborn son. It is hard to feel sexy at this point especially after working long days. So as far as your husband goes-- I think maybe you should hand him some lotion and tell him to have fun! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />hahahaha!

Just relax and take care of yourself!

OMgoodnesss Hurt! I was a beached whale around you time.

Men! Husbands can be scared of losing their wife to the unknown.

Maybe you can play some favorite music and rub each other down....promising him it'll be a short time until you can resume coitus, but there are lots of things you can do to satisfy each other until then....

Hon, you can smell good and listen to music and massage and kiss...... then sleep well and take care of yourself.

Blessings
Debi

Well, what does he mean by 'sexy'.....that you aren't oozing sex kitten from every pore anymore? LOL

WElcome to the real world pal! LOL

How bout HE taek over some of those responsiblities YOu have & see if that saves your energy.

Sorry but that irks me---that is definately NOT what ANY pg woman want's to hear.
H wanted me even MORE when I was pg! go figure.....loves BIG butts I guess! LOL

Serioulsy though.......here is a great site about sex & it's Christian & it covers EVERYTHING so it might give you soem ideas for this time......... [URL]themarriagebed.com[/URL[

PS: preeclampsia? is that what they are worried about? I had that w/ my first.....take care of yourself!

xoxoxo
kt

Thanks everyone. I haven't been on in a few days because I have been so busy. Tuesday we took a hospital tour that last almost 75 mins but we were STANDING. I was about to fall over just because I'm only suppose to stand for less then 20 mins at a time. Then last night, my work through me a suprise baby shower! But KT, in regards to preeclampsia, they are worried about my high BP, swelling and severe headaches. The swelling hasn't been too much of an issue but everything else has. I spent the weekend in the hospital two weeks ago because I woke up saturday morning at 1:30 with a severe headache and dizziness. So they had me come in and I ended up staying all weekend. What fun THAT WAS! My roommate was so unfriendly and my H was having a hard time with me there because he was so sad to see me hooked up to everything. POOR THING! So I started going in every week for my check-ups and have one this morning. Plus because I work 4 ten hour days a week, the doctor is concerned that its too much for me (we are standing most of the day). I wasn't wanting to have my hours cut or full bedrest, but after the last two weeks, I'm thinking I might enjoy a few less hours of work. Picking up kids all day really does a number on my back.
As for the whole "unsexy" issue, I basically told him that it doesn't get any easier for awhile, due to after the baby, you still have to wait a bit. I told him that it was nothing against him and he needed to see that. So we will see how that goes in the final 5 weeks I have left.

Hurt, I can only imagine working w/ the babies all day has you feeling exhausted! I am a teacher, and I find myself sitting much more than I use to (I'm only 6 months pregnant). The lifting and walking definitely does a number on your back.

As far as H goes, I know we are all sensitive to the sex issue since that is why we are all here in some form or another, but he really needs to be understanding right now.

I hope it all works out for you!