Hey Girlie,
You know that the situation is going to take much time for them to get over. That is the funny things about family - they expect you to let their stuff go fast,but they take their sweet time on your stuff. I don't really have a great answer for you I just know that i had to keep saying to my family that my H was going to be in my life whether I or they wanted him to or not because we have kids.
You must let them know that he is going to be around whether you guys are married or not because of the baby. Be firm, but sweet and just let them know you would rather it be peaceful when he is around. Their feelings really don't count in this situation and I had to let my father know too that he can either join in with us or be without us alot of the time!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />
Let them make the decision, but throw it out there so the decision is ultimately theirs to make. Then they have no one to blame but themselves when they miss precious time with you all. Be sure to let them know that what he did (your DH)he did to you, not to them and if you can get past it then so should they.
My H still comes to family outings and we have no problems eventhough I'm sure on some level he is uncomfortable because everyone knows - it does not effect our family times.
Be Strong and firm and mean what you say to them as well. I learned in counseling that you sometimes have to set yourself apart from those that don't support you when needed. Most likely it is not a permanent seperation, but a seperation just the same = TOUGH LOVE!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
Be Good and check up n ya shortly,
JT
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