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Just talked to OWH he installed keylogger and confirmed they are still in contact. I'm meeting him today to get copies. And we will set strategy. I've been plan Aing my a$$ off! I think its time for plan B. Help, I need support!!!!
aka-confused42
BS-45 me
WH-42
DS-14 & DD-12
together 21 yrs, married 18.5yrs
"I love you but not IN love with you" speech 6/3/04
D-Day 2/25/05; WH moved out 3/15/05 & back too soon 3/22/05...He left again 5/8/06
5/25/06 Plan B.....NC letter 6/18/06
Recovery finally began Jan 2007
We are IN love again!!!Sept 2007
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This is annoying advice, but give yourself a few days to plan what you really want, rather than allowing yourself to react. Did you have a boundary drawn with H that you'd separate if contact established again? Did you have a timeline for Plan A?
Sorry I can't be of more assistance. I'll try to look at your earlier posts and see if I can figure out more. Just wanted to give some sort of quick input to help you out initially.
Dobie
Me - BS
DDay 1 (Multiple affairs while overseas) - Feb 2003
DDay 2 (AdultFriendFinder Profile) - April 2007
Seeing a counselor. I think we have him stumped.
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C42, how long have you plan A'ed ?
In any case plan B needs some setup. Financial, and an intermediary to handle document exchange sand kids ( if any).
Take a breath and read up quietly all about plan B in 'surviving an affair' an don this site.
Then write down your plan just like a work task.
Many plan B's fail because they're not planned properly.
Breathe, calm yourself , study and calculate how you will plan B.
It unusual for them to stay in contact after exposure to OMW I must say in my experience.
All blessings.
MB Alumni
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