Just thought I would give an update. For those that dont know, WW moved out on 2/4/05. I caught her spending the night at OM's house on 2/25/05. On 2/26 I sent out exposure email and no contact letter. She filed for D on 3/9. We met w/atty's at courthouse on 3/29 where I gave her a proposal for settlement while maintaining that I still prefer reconciliation instead of D. At that time my atty thought that she would accept proposal in a matter of days in order to avoid a deposition.
Well here we are on 4/27 and I have heard exactly nada, zilch, bupkiss. I had dinner last night with a mutual friend of WW and mine. He tells me that WW doesnt know whether to accept proposal or attempt reconciliation. Mutual friend has told her that after all she has done and that I am still willing to try and reconcile M, is proof positive that WW will never find anyone that loves her the way I do. This has thrown WW for a real loop. Mutual friend thinks that WW's fantasyland is starting to crumble. WW's brother and parents (whom she is still lying to about A) are still hoping for reconciliation and have let her know that. WW is having to move out of her girlfriend's (A enabler) this weekend as girlfriend's husband is returning from a Middle East tour of duty next week. WW is moving in with her brother and his wife. She will have a real hard time keeping lid on A and continue the charade with her brother under this situation.
I was laying in bed the other night wondering how long I was going to be able to keep going in this limbo land. The Lord guided my thoughts and I realized that it hasnt even been 90 days since WW moved out. I have to keep things in perspective and be patient. Not even 90 days! Why does it seem like it has been longer than that? I have to realize that this might take much, much longer. I am waiting patiently.

Good days fly by. Rough/miserable days linger. Are you for sure she is still involved with OM? If she does decide she wants to work things out will you make exposing the affair to faamily and friends a requirement?

Stormy,
I wouldnt say I have good days, however busy days do tend to fly by. My homestand ended yesterday and the team is out on the road until 5/5. So, the next week or so will be a challenge.
I am not sure about the status of relationship with OM at this point. However, there is still contact as they work together at a huge financial and insurance company here in San Antonio. They both work in the same department.
I have exposed to family and friends. Friends are fully aware and they know all. Family I have exposed to, and she has denied it to them. They dont know what to think. I think deep down they know I am correct but they want to believe her as this goes totally against their family values. They are a rural ranching family that attend church regularly and dont believe in this kinda thing. I turned over all my written documentation to my attorney when she filed for divorce. My plan is to make copies of it after the legal part of this is over and show them the irrefutable evidence at that point. Not sure why other than the fact that I want her father and her family to know that I didnt let them down. I am pretty close to her father and her brother as they are lease partners with me on a deer lease and I spend a lot of time with them. So, it is important to me for them to know exactly what has transpired. I dont want them to think any less of me as a result of this. So, given that, it will be impossible for her to continue to try and spin the truth.
Her parent's call to me on my birthday indicates to me that they already are seeing the truth and are not holding me responsible for the situation.