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LM..... I'm not giving my advice, I'm giving PEP's advice! Along with all the advice I've gotten here. If I had REALLY listened, I don't think things would be the way they are for me now. I don't want TNT to walk the same path I have..... Which, by the way, is about to change. I realized today that I have about this much love (K holds up thumb and forefinger with about one quarter inch of space between) left for WH. I see it so clearly now. And it's my fault I have let WH kill it for me. Well, he can kill the love I have for him, but he can't kill ME!!!! And I also see clearly, that while I have been paying close attention to WH's actions, I have NOT been doing so with my actions. Too wishy-washy. Too much "okay, hurt me again". No more. And I don't want to see this woman go the same way. She deserves it no more than I. I am not being angry with you or anyone else....only myself. My eyes are opening up to reality....my reality. TNT.....you go girl! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> K
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Me55
WH 53
Married 34 years
Son 32; Daughter 30
A for 5 years or ? WHO KNOWS???
D-Day May 15, 2004
D finally final Friday, October 13, 2006
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I am not being angry with you or anyone else....only myself. My eyes are opening up to reality....my reality. TNT.....you go girl! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> K K: You can be angry at me, if it will help you "heal yourself", you really can. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> I think the day that the "light comes on" in your head, and you BELIEVE what a wonderful and beautful woman you are, then you will really be mad at yourself for accepting the crumbs you do from your still WH. This is all stuff I have told you before. I can only hope that TNT-RN (great name by the way) heeds the wise Peps advice. The insanity has to stop NOW. OK, I am out. LM
Some people just don't get it, they don't get it that they don't get it.
I had the right to remain silent.......but I didn't have the ability.
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LM.....
(Sorry, TNT, for the thread jack)
The light has come on......I KNOW what a wonderful and beautiful woman I am. Woman. An adult who can care for herself.
I can't be angry with you, LM. Only with the person I was before.....procrastinating, meek, too laid-back, too easy going. But nice, sometimes too "nice". And with blinders on to boot!
TNT, I hope you listen to Pep and others here. I am holding myself up as an example of what not to do!
K
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Me55
WH 53
Married 34 years
Son 32; Daughter 30
A for 5 years or ? WHO KNOWS???
D-Day May 15, 2004
D finally final Friday, October 13, 2006
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Well I agree if it is appropriate for me that it is for ahyone!
I quoted MBs today, there is a price for getting in here and pointed at my heart!
LM, I was dx with IBS at 18, headaches for as long as I rememeber feeling in a fog and like I never get enough sleep. Also, I have 18/18 "trigger pain points". Stress exacerbates it... can't get rid of that right now, can I?!
BW, 33 WH 36
Md 14.5 yrs
DD13, DS11, DD4
Tired of counting d-days, D proceeding 7/05
"Pride can break a man right down from iron.
Twist him 'round 'round and tatter up a soul
Handprint of God on the small of my back
my second chance, my second chance.
I'll bend a knee my friend, I'll bend a knee...
Lay It Down say it's all my fault, all my fault.
Say I believe, I believe lay it down.
This the hour of my healing, of my healing,
yeah my heart, my heart redeemed."
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Just thinking about you TNT... How's it going? Please keep us updated. K <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
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Me55
WH 53
Married 34 years
Son 32; Daughter 30
A for 5 years or ? WHO KNOWS???
D-Day May 15, 2004
D finally final Friday, October 13, 2006
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BW, 33 WH 36
Md 14.5 yrs
DD13, DS11, DD4
Tired of counting d-days, D proceeding 7/05
"Pride can break a man right down from iron.
Twist him 'round 'round and tatter up a soul
Handprint of God on the small of my back
my second chance, my second chance.
I'll bend a knee my friend, I'll bend a knee...
Lay It Down say it's all my fault, all my fault.
Say I believe, I believe lay it down.
This the hour of my healing, of my healing,
yeah my heart, my heart redeemed."
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I am having moments of absolute resolve and others where I want to crumble...
It all *HURTS* so darned much!!
I could lay around and go "why me?" but what would that solve?
I am looking for input on a solid Plan B... that can shift easily into Plan D as I am NOT so sure that isn't the REAL answer!
Any takers?
BW, 33 WH 36
Md 14.5 yrs
DD13, DS11, DD4
Tired of counting d-days, D proceeding 7/05
"Pride can break a man right down from iron.
Twist him 'round 'round and tatter up a soul
Handprint of God on the small of my back
my second chance, my second chance.
I'll bend a knee my friend, I'll bend a knee...
Lay It Down say it's all my fault, all my fault.
Say I believe, I believe lay it down.
This the hour of my healing, of my healing,
yeah my heart, my heart redeemed."
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I am looking for input on a solid Plan B... that can shift easily into Plan D as I am NOT so sure that isn't the REAL answer!
Any takers? This sounds feasible... Normally ... Plan B requires getting things organized and continuing Plan A right up to the very last minute before you hand him the Plan B letter ... but in YOUR case .... I'd simply avoid fighting with him prior to Plan B ... and just keep your energy for yourself. Pep
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