I am new to this forum, but I need to express myself to people who have been through the same thing. I am 27 years old I have been with my Husband from since age 17. My husband is adopted and has had a lot of issues that he has had to deal with. He is an alcoholic soer now for two years. During our relationship I have only known of him to cheat on me once. He came to me and told me that when he was drunk he slept with someone and because I was pregnant at the time and it was unprotected he didn't want to have relations with me becuase of the baby. that was six years ago.

Last month around the beginning of march I was set to deliver our second child. HE came to me again and informed me that he was very promiscuous while he drank and since he is now working on step four he needs to tell me about all the sexual encounters he had have. AND he is now romantically involved with someone and he is trying to break it off. He broke it off for a week, I had the baby during this time. (SHE came early, Probably becaue of stress) THen one night he did not come home until 3:00 the next morning. When he got home he asked me if I wanted to know where he was and frankly I knew but I didn't want to hear him say it I felt I was going to get violent. Now we are in April he is going to therapy because he wants to know why he does what he is doing. What needs he has that aren't being fulfilled at home.

Now I am at a stage where I have a career, I am finishing my Master's in two months, I feel like I need to get the hell out. Am I over reacting is this because of all the hurt. I love my husband, but I am not too sure I am sane enough to handle this.

Erth,

just wanted to say I am sorry to hear about your pain. It must be really difficult. Under the circumstances, this is a good place to get information and to understand your options and work out what you want.

For starters, you are not over-reacting!
For most people,as you can see if you read more on this site, a S's A is one of the most painful things to deal with. It will probably take a long time for you to come to terms with this, so give yourself all the time you need!

Are you seeing a counsellor, or do you have a trusted friend or relative you can confide in? By that I mean a person who is not going to give you the old "get rid of him" advice etc, but someone who will truly listen to you and help you in your pain.

Also, have you read all the information on this site? There are also some great books like Torn Asunder, by Dave Carder, that can be really useful.

Your H seems to have multiple problems and of course, no one would blame you if you did decide to D. The issue is that in the first few months after hearing of a S's A, it is often so overwhelming that it is very hard to know what you want. Its important ot make big decisions like D when you have a calm and clear mind and not in the heat of the moment.

Please keep reading and posting.

It gets a little slow on here but there are more people on GQ if you need help quickly