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Affair without contac?
#1365472 04/30/05 05:25 AM
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My ww has cheated several times,before,and I have forgiven her,but now she is talking with a guy at work every time he passes by,and he got her 2 cell phones,and she hides to send him messeges. Can this be called an affair without any contac? Iam buying her a cell phome,so he gets heis back,anfd
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MISTERSTEVE #1365473 04/30/05 05:32 AM
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I was booted off before I finished my post.I am getting my wife a cell phone,so I CAN see all the calls,and messeges,and she can give him back his phone.
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Why pay for a phone that c/b used to enable the A? If the OM wants to pay for it, let him. In fact, if she is going to have an A, let the OM spend his $$ instead of he using your $$. A selfish WS (which is redunant description since all WS' are selfish - <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> ) anyways a selfish WS will always use others to enable their A. Better to drain the finances of an OM instead of your family's finances. IMHO anyway.

You will find that keeping track of her contact with the OM w/b emotionally, mentally and physically draining for you. C/b costly to your family, your health, your work, your finances, etc.

Better to get with a Jennifer from MB or a good MC to work on a plan. Also read His needs/Her needs, surviving and affair and love must be tough to help you make a plan.

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