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I do not want to live in the world of make believe and I do not want to take Anti-D’s, I lived a lie without knowing it long enough. But I do not want to live alone and I would miss my kids. Where do I stand, what do I do.
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Who,
Your pain just jumped off of my screen and fell into my lap. I'm so sorry that you are hurting like you are. What is your situation? There are a lot of people here who would love to help ease your pain, if only a little...
I am a strong, lovely, desirable woman!
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Who,
I'm glad you're here....because there are alot of people here who have not only "felt" what you feel....but who have survived it. I count myself as a survivor who has recovered my life, my happiness, my peace and have stuck around to help otheres....there are many others like me here who do the same. You've come to a good place....sending you hugs, warmth and welcome.
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Please share your story so others know how to help. {{{{Who}}}}
Last edited by shelly_3; 04/30/05 06:20 PM.
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DD H's ONS june'04
H left Aug11'04
found out about OW aug14'04
H came home Dec28
1st recovery started in Feb 05
Apr. 8 continued contact discovered ow and i confront Wh, H chooses marriage
Am I a fool?
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Who,
We are sad that your situation is such that you find the need to be here. This is a very good place to be though, to sort it out and work to heal.
"I do not want to take Anti-D’s" Don't knock the ADs. They do not make your life a lie, but just smooth out the very rough spots, help you think more rationally, and get you through the day.
You are very emotional now, which is natural of course, but it does help to be detached and step back from the grief and heartache to try to recover..if that is what you wish to do.
You need to tell us the story and get the dialogue going.
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Last edited by krusht; 05/01/05 12:51 AM.
CORDUROY PILLOWS ARE MAKING HEADLINES!!
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Who, I too couldn't scroll past your thread... I think you will find that almost everyone here knows exactly what you mean.
You will need to give us more background in order to get some good perspectives and suggestions.
I would like to add one thing... that I am currently on ADs. I have been resistant for a number of reasons, all of them valid. Now that I've been on them for roughly 3 weeks, they are starting to 'work' and I'm feeling very glad that I took the plunge and started them. The difference is very subtle. I still think the same way, and the same issues are still there. However, the symptoms of depression are fading fast, allowing me to deal with these issues from a much more stable emotional condition. I don't plan on being on them any longer than I have to, but again, I'm very glad that I'm on them.
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Thanks for the replies. My W/W had a long term A and dumb me did not have a clue, let that be a lesson to everyone if something seems a little off or just not right then something IS wrong. It’s been almost a year now since I found out and she has not done anything wrong, it’s just me not being able to get it out of my head. I did love her with all my heart but now most of it is gone. I think I may have been able to have dealt with a short A or something but the LTA thing I will not accept to many reminders to many lies. But again thinks, I know what I have to do now, but it still hurts.
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