I wanted to respond to this, but didn't think the other thread was really the place.
You'd posted to me:
Dewt
I'll just be straight with you about something I think is an issue, and yet as far as I can tell, has never been discussed
I cannot imagine refering to myself as "soul loss" and then expect myself to ever become whole and healed
humor is a tonic for the soul
humorless is something I never have understood
I wonder what the self-message can be for a person who calls herself "soul loss"
I wonder ~how~ can this be a self loving message?
it feels like self-loathing to me whenever I read it
and no matter what insult anyone would/could throw at someone self-proclaimed as "soul loss" .... I cannot imagine anything could hurt as much as calling herself THAT !
I think it is slapping herself across the face
and naming herself "soul loss" may be a self fulfilling prophecy of self-loathing .... and this becomes a filter whereby all remarks are colored this way
just a thought I've been wanting to toss out there ... because it saddens me to see someone hurt themselves for no apparent reason that makes sense to THIS happy grown up woman
see Dewt .... the most insulting messages of all ~ are the ugly ones we throw at ourselves !
Pep
First of all, you're right. It has never been discussed (to my knowledge) on the MB boards. Ever. Kinda weird, that.
Well, maybe not. She reg'd that name at MB about a month after d-day. My infidelity combined with other things was a terrible blow to her. To her, it felt like her soul had been torn out. I'm sure many other BS can relate.
Here's the idea that inspired the name:
Warning signs of Soul Loss
* Anything chronic: fatigue, depression, misfortune, faulty relationships, emotional problems, suicidal tendencies
* Inability to release emotional trauma from the past: a death, divorce, or other loss
* Addictions of any kind: alcohol, drugs, food
* Feelings of disconnection from the body or reality
* Operations
* Repetitive sicknesses
* Major illnesses
* Shame or feelings of guilt
* Feelings of unworthiness
* Not feeling full of your own personal power
It summed up very well how she felt when she joined MB. It wasn't an attempt to put herself down. It was (and is) her being ~real~.
As far as humourless, she is far from it. Don't you be worryin' bout that. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
So anyway, does that clear things up for ya?
lovin',
dewt
