WS may or may not be in contact with OW. I am not sure. How do I approach the idea of I will fill WS EN of sex while saying not without protection, because I dont know what the OW may have. I know if he comes to her defense and says she wouldnt have anything....I would get angry and it would be that much harder, I figure he would say, see I told you you can never let it go, you brought up the A again, whatever. How can you do plan A and be nice, and happy and try to fill all EN of WS when you are not wanting to incur any TREATS from the OW. Not that this is an option right now, but I never thought about until reading another post. If I had it my way, he comes home and we never look back. But logically until I am sure it is over, I will have this choice I need to make and it may literally be a life or death choice for me. Plus the way he keeps leaving to go to moms weekly, if he came home, he could be eating the cake here and then leaving for a while and getting his cake there too. Any thoughts are greatly appreciated. GOD BLESS

Bullwinkle, you simply address it to him like you did here. Plan A does not mean that you don't confront him with unpleasant truths. It only means no angry outbursts, disrespectful judgments, annoying behavior. It doesn't mean you walk around and say nice words at the expense of the truth.

Tell him that until you are sure he has stopped the affair, that you must protect yourself from STD's. Nor is there anything wrong with bringing up the affair. You should bring it up if it's appropriate.

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BW,

It is also recommended that the WS get tested for STDs at the family doctor. If he won't go, tell him you are going to get tested and then do it, if he still won't.

If he doesn't, then we know what is most important to him.

Many here at MB have done that exact thing.

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Thanks for the help, you are all great. GOD BLESS

Bullwinkle, may I make a suggestion? Stick to one thread for yourself. It is hard for people to help you if you are jumping around from thread to thread. You can always edit the thread title to change topics when needed but it makes it easier to know your story that way.

Thanks, I noticed on my first thread I only got feedback on the first day. Someone would ask about some details and I would respond or give an update on how things had changed an never a reply so I thought maybe my thread only stays for a day or something. Is that normal or did I do something to keep the threads from being saved or something. I still can find them if I look for them but no postings after that first or second day. You are saying just change the topic? That is why I post different threads because I have a new question and wanted to get an answer that I wasnt getting in the original post by the original title. I am still trying to figure these postings out. Thanks for all the imput you guys are a great help.